Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi everyone
Wondering what you do when your partner pushes your buttons
This is a minor issue but I find myself getting quite disturbed and angry about it...
I have a toothache and the only time I can get to see a dentist is early Saturday morning otherwise I have to wait 2 weeks.
Normally on Saturday I look after my husbands mum who lives in a granny flat on our property. I get her up, dressed, get her breakfast etc.
So I asked my H if he could look after her cos I need to be at the dentist at 8 am. His response was a very terse 'I don't have much choice in the matter, so YES.
Not a big deal right? But enough to make me feel kind of guilty for inconveniencing him with my toothache.
It also made me feel angry cos I do 90 percent of looking after the home and family and rarely ask him to do anything
So, how does anyone respond when your buttons get pushed. I said nothing and tried to not let it bother me, but it does. Oh, and it's not the first time he has done this. If I ever go out and ask him to get his own lunch or feed the kids i usually get a 'you're inconveniencing me' reply.
Wondering what you do when your partner pushes your buttons
This is a minor issue but I find myself getting quite disturbed and angry about it...
I have a toothache and the only time I can get to see a dentist is early Saturday morning otherwise I have to wait 2 weeks.
Normally on Saturday I look after my husbands mum who lives in a granny flat on our property. I get her up, dressed, get her breakfast etc.
So I asked my H if he could look after her cos I need to be at the dentist at 8 am. His response was a very terse 'I don't have much choice in the matter, so YES.
Not a big deal right? But enough to make me feel kind of guilty for inconveniencing him with my toothache.
It also made me feel angry cos I do 90 percent of looking after the home and family and rarely ask him to do anything
So, how does anyone respond when your buttons get pushed. I said nothing and tried to not let it bother me, but it does. Oh, and it's not the first time he has done this. If I ever go out and ask him to get his own lunch or feed the kids i usually get a 'you're inconveniencing me' reply.
sorry for being long winded but it can become a big deal after a while so please watch how you are feeling emotionally when he does it because it can cause a person serious depresion and anxiety if they keep doing it.
maybe your guy is more being selfish? because to me button pushing is when they do things intentionally to cause you some sort of discomfort. i am sorry that you are having this done to you. i wish i could tell you how to handle it but i am searching for the same answers. just know you're not alone.
*when someone pushes your buttons it is a minor issue
i had to fix the typo in that first sentence. sorry lol
I've found that ignoring it, and continuing on with what you're doing is the best way to deal with it. Or a sweet "Thank you!" (even though you want to kick him in the teeth) will take the wind out of his nastiness. Don't stoop to his level.
I know you have a lot going on with your abuser, from your other posts. I hope you can get out soon. But continuing to ignore the button pushing is a way to rise above.
Good luck, and hugs!!!