Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I've realized that a lot of my friends are actually NOT supportive (going back years), and I'm wondering what your experiences with friendships have been.
The group of friends I've had for the past 2 years are all rather selfish/manipulative -- yet on the surface they look really "nice." They'll say cruel things about other people, etc., and they're quite shallow. Kind of like the Mean Girls movie, except they don't treat me that way -- I make friend the fastest of all of them, so they know I would drop them quickly if they did that.
They also poach my new friends -- all of them know each other through ME. The minute I make a new friend, they snap them up. They can't seem to make friends on their own, at all.
I'm distancing myself from them now.
But the group of friends I had 2 years before that, were similar! Which is why I made this new group 2 years ago.
Both this new, and old group, seemed "nice" and like good people initially -- and their image is of that. But their behavior is actually shallow, selfish, user kind of people. A couple of girls in both groups actually hit their boyfriends, and didn't see a problem with it.
You'd never know that to look at them though.
So I'm wondering if maybe I attracted people like this? Do people w/ emotional abuse in their lives tend to attract friends like this also?
Or are kind people (who aren't abusive, or cruel in any way) simply rare??
I can only think of maybe 2-3 people I've ever been friends with who weren't like this, as they now live across the country. However, I'm not sure if that's because I at
I now need to make a more supportive group of friends, but I'm not sure where to look. Curious to hear all of your experiences.
And I want to say THANK YOU to everyone on this board, by the way. You've really helped me so very much. it's wonderful to have such a supportive place, and I wish this existed in real life!
The group of friends I've had for the past 2 years are all rather selfish/manipulative -- yet on the surface they look really "nice." They'll say cruel things about other people, etc., and they're quite shallow. Kind of like the Mean Girls movie, except they don't treat me that way -- I make friend the fastest of all of them, so they know I would drop them quickly if they did that.
They also poach my new friends -- all of them know each other through ME. The minute I make a new friend, they snap them up. They can't seem to make friends on their own, at all.
I'm distancing myself from them now.
But the group of friends I had 2 years before that, were similar! Which is why I made this new group 2 years ago.
Both this new, and old group, seemed "nice" and like good people initially -- and their image is of that. But their behavior is actually shallow, selfish, user kind of people. A couple of girls in both groups actually hit their boyfriends, and didn't see a problem with it.
You'd never know that to look at them though.
So I'm wondering if maybe I attracted people like this? Do people w/ emotional abuse in their lives tend to attract friends like this also?
Or are kind people (who aren't abusive, or cruel in any way) simply rare??
I can only think of maybe 2-3 people I've ever been friends with who weren't like this, as they now live across the country. However, I'm not sure if that's because I at
I now need to make a more supportive group of friends, but I'm not sure where to look. Curious to hear all of your experiences.
And I want to say THANK YOU to everyone on this board, by the way. You've really helped me so very much. it's wonderful to have such a supportive place, and I wish this existed in real life!
In young adulthood and adulthood, I have made more mistakes in this area and have taken more risks. I didn't spend as much time watching people. In this stage, I have gotten stabbed in the back more frequently.
I haven't done as well in my romantic relationships. (sigh)
Good luck in this important area of life.
A friend is a gift you give yourself.
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http://www.lifegoals.org/how-to-attract-positive-people-positive-influences-in-your-life/
There is a site called meetup.com. One thing you might want to do is get out of the house and meet people. There are tons of reasons to meet, to learn spanish, to meet people and a million things on the list I cannot think of. Check it out if and see if it helps you get out. That is my big issue, I have to make myself leave the house some days and I don't always feel good about doing it but I know it is healing me. I'm lucky I did cause I bumped into that old friend....