Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
[[[[Notice how the media never use the
word "abuse," but instead. . . . .
"tumultuous" and "volatile."]]]]
Wallingford Murder Suspect in Custody: Cops
The suspect and the victim had a tumultuous relationship, police said.
Police secured an arrest warrant in the murder of a Wallingford woman.
Susan Mazzarella was found strangled inside her Danny's Way apartment complex July 16. She had been dead for several days before she was discovered, police said.
Investigators focused on Luis Roman, 41, who had a prior relationship with Mazzarella. Roman was released from prison in June, after serving a year-long sentence for two domestic violence incidents involving Mazzarella, according to police. Mazzarella apparently allowed Roman to stay at her apartment after he got out of prison.
After Mazzarella's murder, Roman fled to Tampa, Florida, police said. They received a tip Roman was returning to Connecticut on a bus, and took him into custody July 19 at the bus station in New Haven, charging him with a probation violation.
Police said he later confessed to the crime.
Roman is being held on $1 million bond will be formally charged with murder when he appears in Meriden Superior Court on Wednesday. He is at the New Haven Correctional Facility, according to the state Department of Correction Web site.
Bond Set at $1.5M in Wallingford Murder Case
The family said the relationship was volatile.
The man accused of killing a Wallingford woman is being held on $1.5 million bond.
Luis Roman, 41, is accused of killing Susan Mazzarella, 51, and he appeared in court on Wednesday.
Mazzarella was found strangled inside her Danny's Way apartment complex on July 16 and police said she had been dead for several days before her body was discovered.
Roman was released from prison in June, after serving a year-long sentence for two domestic violence incidents involving Mazzarella, according to police, and Mazzarella apparently allowed Roman to stay at her apartment after he got out of prison.
After Mazzarella's murder, Roman fled to Tampa, Florida, police said. They received a tip Roman was returning to Connecticut on a bus, and took him into custody July 19 at the bus station in New Haven, charging him with a probation violation.
Police said he later confessed to the crime.
Romans family told NBC Connecticut outside court that the couple had a volatile two-year relationship.
The case was continued to Aug. 16 and it will be held in New Haven court.
(NBC)
Suspect in custody for Wallingford murder
Updated: Wednesday, 27 Jul 2011, 3:52 PM EDT
Published : Tuesday, 26 Jul 2011, 4:15 PM EDT
Wallingford, Conn. (WTNH) - Police in Wallingford say they've got their man. An arrest warrant has been secured for Luis Roman, the man accused of strangling a woman to death in her apartment.
Roman, 41, was arrested at a bus station in New Haven on July 19. He's accused of killing 53-year old Susan Mazzarella inside her apartment on Danny's Way in Wallingford. Her body was found on July 16th police were called to her home to do a welfare check.
Police say Roman was on probation after being released from prison on June 2011 after serving one year in jail for domestic assaults against Mazzarella. It appears that the victim had allowed Roman to return to her residence where he was staying since he was released from prison.
He was initially arrested on a violation of probation charge and
Luis Roman had been released from prison last month after having served a year in jail for two domestic assaults on Mazzarella.
New Haven Register
word "abuse," but instead. . . . .
"tumultuous" and "volatile."]]]]
Wallingford Murder Suspect in Custody: Cops
The suspect and the victim had a tumultuous relationship, police said.
Police secured an arrest warrant in the murder of a Wallingford woman.
Susan Mazzarella was found strangled inside her Danny's Way apartment complex July 16. She had been dead for several days before she was discovered, police said.
Investigators focused on Luis Roman, 41, who had a prior relationship with Mazzarella. Roman was released from prison in June, after serving a year-long sentence for two domestic violence incidents involving Mazzarella, according to police. Mazzarella apparently allowed Roman to stay at her apartment after he got out of prison.
After Mazzarella's murder, Roman fled to Tampa, Florida, police said. They received a tip Roman was returning to Connecticut on a bus, and took him into custody July 19 at the bus station in New Haven, charging him with a probation violation.
Police said he later confessed to the crime.
Roman is being held on $1 million bond will be formally charged with murder when he appears in Meriden Superior Court on Wednesday. He is at the New Haven Correctional Facility, according to the state Department of Correction Web site.
Bond Set at $1.5M in Wallingford Murder Case
The family said the relationship was volatile.
The man accused of killing a Wallingford woman is being held on $1.5 million bond.
Luis Roman, 41, is accused of killing Susan Mazzarella, 51, and he appeared in court on Wednesday.
Mazzarella was found strangled inside her Danny's Way apartment complex on July 16 and police said she had been dead for several days before her body was discovered.
Roman was released from prison in June, after serving a year-long sentence for two domestic violence incidents involving Mazzarella, according to police, and Mazzarella apparently allowed Roman to stay at her apartment after he got out of prison.
After Mazzarella's murder, Roman fled to Tampa, Florida, police said. They received a tip Roman was returning to Connecticut on a bus, and took him into custody July 19 at the bus station in New Haven, charging him with a probation violation.
Police said he later confessed to the crime.
Romans family told NBC Connecticut outside court that the couple had a volatile two-year relationship.
The case was continued to Aug. 16 and it will be held in New Haven court.
(NBC)
Suspect in custody for Wallingford murder
Updated: Wednesday, 27 Jul 2011, 3:52 PM EDT
Published : Tuesday, 26 Jul 2011, 4:15 PM EDT
Wallingford, Conn. (WTNH) - Police in Wallingford say they've got their man. An arrest warrant has been secured for Luis Roman, the man accused of strangling a woman to death in her apartment.
Roman, 41, was arrested at a bus station in New Haven on July 19. He's accused of killing 53-year old Susan Mazzarella inside her apartment on Danny's Way in Wallingford. Her body was found on July 16th police were called to her home to do a welfare check.
Police say Roman was on probation after being released from prison on June 2011 after serving one year in jail for domestic assaults against Mazzarella. It appears that the victim had allowed Roman to return to her residence where he was staying since he was released from prison.
He was initially arrested on a violation of probation charge and
Luis Roman had been released from prison last month after having served a year in jail for two domestic assaults on Mazzarella.
New Haven Register
I feel sick every time I read something like this.
There was just one here in Canada, where a woman was living in Vancouver and her husband was back in Bangladesh. She went to visit, and he attacked her, gouged out her eyes, and bit her nose almost off.
She's lost the sight in one eye, and God alone knows how much she's suffered inside.
Unfortunately, and I know I'm changing my view from what I said earlier, the problem the police (and media) face in a case like this is that, if they state outright that he was a violently abusive partner, they risk having a court find that there can't be a "fair" trial because any jury will already be prejudiced against him. Would be nice if the "full truth" was then reported - with honest terms - after any guilty verdict though. But even that doesn't always happen.
Just sick. It is usually men violent against women, but we also get "blamed" for whatever....
I get tired of him thinking that.
he makes it sound like a bad thing that we did together, like we robbed a bank together or something..
I don't think my bf would ever intentionally kill me, but I worry that it may happen by accident during one of his fits of rage.
I also worry that I just said that the same way I might say it looks like its going to rain....
I also used to pretend to myself that it made a difference that I didn't believe he'd kill me deliberately, although I knew it was possible he'd do it accidentally.
It makes no difference. And I also now know not that he "might" have killed me accidentally, but that one way or another, he would have killed me - by his hands or my own.
I'm going to be real blunt here...
ANYONE here who thinks their abuser, especially one who has hit, punched, shoved, slapped, pinned down, or choked, would not kill is in denial.
Abusers like to see themselves as victims, when they aren't. They also fool others into doing believing that the abuser is the victim.
They also claim that they were victims to their own emotions. They couldn't restrain their rage, temper, sexual impulse...People often buy into this, that abusers just have explosive tempers that they can't control. So, again the abuser is seen as a victim of his own impulses.
Lundy Bancroft wrote about batterers and child sex abusers, "Both groups assert that they lost control when they acted abusively, but close examination of their actions reveals calculation and forethought.
The batterer may claim to have a bad temper, just as the incest perpetrator claims that he just lost control of his sex drive, perhaps blaming it on his wife by saying that she has not been giving him sex. Both groups work hard to distract attention from the surrounding pattern of conscious activity."
http://www.lundybancroft.com/?page_id=289
It sounds a little silly when when I hear "accidentally kill"--How can you KILL someone, TRULY by accident?
I mean--yeah--if they were sleeping in the middle of the freeway...
I'm pretty sure I couldn't accidentally murder someone.
I certainly couldn't accidentally strangle someone to death--this is because I know that physical injury like that can lead to trauma that can lead to death...that is why I don't strangle people.
I doubt that most of these deaths can truly be seen accidents--the abusers must know that battering someone is risking their health and their life. Everyone else knows that, that's one big reason why we don't all go around battering other people.
I mean--if I had a hobby of shooting guns in random directions, on a busy street...would I really be able to claim that it was an accident if I killed someone?
Sure, maybe I wasn't INTENDING to--maybe I just wanted to see their faces as the bullets came near them, or maybe I just wanted to shoot their feet a little--but does it really matter what I was specifically intending, if I am putting them in such clear risk of serious injury?
Or another analogy: say I have a plastic cup...and I decide that I want to test how strong it is. I throw it on the ground, kick it, maybe I throw it against the wall. It hasn't broken yet...say I scratch something into the side of the cup...do you think it will be accidental when the cup eventually breaks? Even if I am just testing it--? I don't think so. You don't treat cups like that unless you are willing to take the chance that they will break. Human's are the same--you don't know how much a person's body can handle--that is why you DON'T PUT THEM IN DANGER by battering them. We are much more intricate and delicate than a plastic cup.
I'm not trying to argue with anyone on the thread. I just find myself sometimes excusing my H's actions--believing his claims that he is just "moody" or "angers easy." That is no excuse!
Bottom line: Abusers are not the victims--they are in control of their own actions, and are choosing to damage and possibly destroy another person.