Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have been emotionally abused on and off for many years. I have my boyfriend to talk to but he's at college and now I feel I don't have anyone. I don't have any classes with my friends at school and now I don't know what to do. I haven't fought with my mom in several days (cause of abuse) but I still feel upset. Someone help me!!!!
Please know that you do not have to live with this for the rest of your life. You are not powerless. There are people who can help and support you, including on here.
Also please know that when you mom says horrible insulting things to you, that's really about what's going on inside of her, not about you.
You detest conflict.
You're quick to apologize over really simple stuff, even if there's a part of you that thinks you're correct.
You find it hard to initiate conversations.
You struggle to make eye contact with people - even your own reflection in the mirror.
You spend a lot of time going over your actions, looking for the 'right' way to behave or speak.
You think people will get angry at you for being awkward or not knowing what to say.
Your heart races suddenly sometimes, and you're not sure why.
You have troubles getting a good night's sleep.
You're a perfectionist, but not necessarily because you want to be perfect - more like you need to be.
You're hyper-aware of other people's moods.
You long for more connection with people, more time with friends, but you don't seem to be getting as much as you want for some reason.
You relax once you leave the house.
That's 12 things. I'll bet at least 10 of them apply to you.
Other effects include - difficulty regulating your own emotions, unrealistic and ineffective expectaions of what healthy relationships even look like, neuroses involved with the burden of massive stress, inability to set and enforce reasonable boundaries...
Keep learning about abuse. Here's a great place to learn, but I'll tell you from experience, it doesn't even begin to compare to seeing the compassion in someone else's eyes as they actually listen to you. That's one of the most... relieving and rejuvinating feelings out there.