Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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Majesticviolet
Majesticviolet

So we were a group of 5 friends. After a while my BF just started to dislike them and he would shout at me for being late to pick up his calls or not reply to his messages at that instant if i was talking to my friends or anything. Everytime this happens i tell him im sorry and i just cry and cry honestly i dont know what i did to say sorry. Then i dont know well somehow i just became distant with my friends and now i dont have any friends . I dont have anyone to talk to or tell my problems to. I dont know there a certain situations which trigger me off like going to class alone or eating lunch alone when hes not around and i just get so depressed and dont know what to do

dc87110
dc87110
Thank you for the friends request. I am sorry that you are have problems with your BF. I am not good with relationship advice but I wish you the best.
Majesticviolet
Majesticviolet
Thanks anyway . I just nice to know theres some there to talk to me ;)
jojored
jojored
He doesn't like them because he wants to control you, where you go and who you're with. They're taking time away from him. Maybe he's worried about their influence over you. You don't want to be controlled, you cry because you care about him but realize he's mistreating you. Does this sound about right?

I would not cater to a man at the expense of losing a group of friends. Next, he may not like the time you spend with your family, or the amount of time you're at work, etc. Look closely at how he views you, then decide if you want to continue this way. This is how he is, he probably won't change.
dc87110
dc87110
The reason I say I am not good with relationships is because I haven't had the best results when it comes to matters of the heart. I realized too late (Like after I was divorced) that I was in a co dependant relationship. Its amazing what sobriety does to a person... I wish I had quit drinking a lot sooner than 9 years ago. And its a pleasure to talk with you..
jstanicegirl
jstanicegirl
I am sorry you are feeling bad. You sound like you might be young. What is happening to you isn't right. Alienating you from your friends is common in abusive situations. You are not doing anything wrong. You definitely need to find someone to talk to before this escalates. Stay strong...you are not alone.
MyTrueColors
MyTrueColors
He is isolating you. Classic abuser behavior. First its your friends, then your family. Sometimes even your church and/or job.

If you are in college, contact your school's counseling center. Also contact your local women's shelter and ask them to help you make a SAFE plan to leave.

If you are in high school, tell your parents or another trusted adult like an aunt or your physician and/or your school counselor.

If you can't talk to anyone I listed here, PLEASE call the National DV hotline. 800−799−7233

This is not the be all end all definition of abuse, but it's a start. http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/

Also check out www.youarenotcrazy.com

TRIGGER WARNING: This show what happens in abusive relationships. It references teen dating, but it is applicable to ALL ages!!!!! It says that all kinds of abuse is ABUSE. It doesn't matter if it's not "violent." That's because ALL abuse is violent in one way or another and it ALL causes deep wounds/damage.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLSPei0zSaw

Note: All caps isn't yelling. But its the only way to emphasize importance.

Finally, DO NOT UDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES TELL HIM HE IS ABUSIVE OR THAT YOU'RE THINKING ABOUT BREAKING UP.

Please go IMMEDIATELY to someone who can help extricate yourself from this relationship SAFELY NOW.

~healing hugs~