Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Last week my step dad and I got into a huge argument over him not taking me a concert he said he was going to take me to 7 months ago.
HE called me a b*tch for being a mom and not married, and then he told me that i deserved the abuse i got from my ex boy friend.
He threatened to punch me in the mouth. He said you want a punch in the mouth. And then I ran to grab the phone and he grabbed me. I couldn't grab the phone and he wouldn't let go of me. My mon couldn't even grab me away. I finally got loose. My arms hurt and my veins were bruised....
He is leaving on the 21st of this month to go live with his brother, thankfully, but i am still struggling with the fact that he is still in this apartment. I cant deal with it....it's making me anxious.
I don't feel good. He triggered my PTSD, because my ex did the same type of things to me....and i also have severe OCD when i am stressed out.... I should have called the police, but i am to nice... I am just an angry mess right now....
HE called me a b*tch for being a mom and not married, and then he told me that i deserved the abuse i got from my ex boy friend.
He threatened to punch me in the mouth. He said you want a punch in the mouth. And then I ran to grab the phone and he grabbed me. I couldn't grab the phone and he wouldn't let go of me. My mon couldn't even grab me away. I finally got loose. My arms hurt and my veins were bruised....
He is leaving on the 21st of this month to go live with his brother, thankfully, but i am still struggling with the fact that he is still in this apartment. I cant deal with it....it's making me anxious.
I don't feel good. He triggered my PTSD, because my ex did the same type of things to me....and i also have severe OCD when i am stressed out.... I should have called the police, but i am to nice... I am just an angry mess right now....
Hugs,
Sharon
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Have you reached out to the women's center near you?
I dont know what to do.
Remember, the Goddess is in all of us and she deserves better.
I am pro you, pro your child
You are are a beautiful Mother, with a beautiful innocent child.
You need sanctuary, safety, time to heal, opportunity to rebuild and begin again....gentle hugs!
My two cents? Get out of that environment wihile he's still there. His crap would be on the doorstep, NOW , if he pulled that stunt with my kid. Having said that, my experience tells me that they never "leave quietly." Get somewhere safe until the 21st, then. Stay with a friend or relative, if you can. If not, there are resources/shelters/programs in most counties for women with children. You need to be alive more than you need to go to concerts. He is not your ally or part of your support system. If he can hurt his wife's child, (you) then he can hurt/abuse your's. Think about it. You've got to become "mama grizzly" and protect you and your child. Your Mom may very well want you to stay to take the heat off of her, but she needs to deal with him, herself. You can't fix her nightmare. You have to live for you and your child. I wish you all the best, my dear.
And I want to exhort you in this: for the record, he is living proof that "being married" doesn't mean you picked a good man. It isn't validation of you or the end-all, BE-all to life as a woman and mother, to simply "get married." This isn't 1676, and women have choices and options. Our value goes WAY beyond what "having a husband" offers. If you meet a man who is good to you, and you WANT to get married, some day, then fine. If not, that's fine too. Don't let an asshole like him dump a boatload of shame on to you, just because he's a raging animal who needs a cage! You get no condemnation from me, or from the One who created you and loves you perfectly. Stay strong and fight for yourself and your child. You deserve better.