hi abby!glad your talking about this problem.sounds sooo familiar.i'm 39 and have a 46yr old sister that is bipolar and histrionic(which is sort of a personality disorder.or a ticket to act like an ass.)but your parents HAVE to address this issue.unlike my parents who didn't-it will not get better.once they know that this behavior is working for them-they cut loose.they keep on resorting to violence and rages because IT WORKS FOR THEM!and that is the key there.if it is working for them they wont change.my father is verbally abusive and bipolar too-so i don't know if hhe didn't think anything was wrong with her actions.or if he just figured he acted that way so what if she did.and their is no excuse for it.i'm sorry that he has add/adhd-but that does not give him a free ticket to be abusive or violent with you or anyone else.there are plenty of treatments and therapys that work for individuals with those conditions.what do your parents think of his behavior?i don't speak to my sister either-only when i have to.which is rare.but funny-she will rage on me and act like notthing ever went down the next day.it is no way for you to live.if your parents are in denial of his behavior talk to a school councellor for advice.talk to someone.there has to be help in your community where you can turn.please keep us updated. and try to have a beautiful weekend despite what has happened.remember-talk!communication is the key to opening doors to self help.

Sweeite -----

Do your parents or caregivers know about this violence?

If not, then tell them. If they don't take steps to protect you, then you need to go to someone in school or at church and tell them that your brother has hurt you physically and has come at you with a baseball bat.

I'm not trying to get your brother into trouble.
I'm hoping that getting someone will step in and help you both.

I hope you have parents that listen. Try talking to the school counsellor, teacher, or someone else who works with youths. You might trying phoning a youth emergency shelter in your area, or a hotline geared to youths and the different problems they face in life. Sometimes, people don't get it, so if one person isn't really hearing you, go the the next and so on, until you find someone that does.

I'm really concerned for your safety. The fact that you mention he is ADD/ADHD and questionably bipolar, is a huge red flag and based on what you have said, it is clear that some sort of intervention is required, very, very soon.

I think like you ... If he's already punching/hurting you, then that is unacceptable. And, as he is now threatening you with a baseball bat, then it is quite likely the day will come when he will use that baseball bat, or something else that comes to hand. I am afraid he is going to seriously injure you.

So, get out there, start advocating for yourself if your parents don't get it and won't do the job for you.

I admire you. You are only 14 and you had the courage to find this site and post. That shows a lot of courage. Come back to this site and post again, if you need more encouragement and support. That's what we're hear for.

By the way, whenever your brother gets like this, and if your parents aren't available to help, for your own safety, leave the house. Let your parents know where you have gone. Go to a trusted friend's house (who lives nearby), go to a trusted neighbours house, until someone can step in to help you.

Thanks everyone for your support.
I forgot to mention.
My do know of this. My mom has been taking him to a parents psychiatrist and phycologist for about 2 years now, trying different medications and methods of therapy.
I have been going with him to some sessions and talking about it. But sometimes it gets too much for him and he blocks it out and goes to sleep, in the middle of the session.
Next year, I will be going to a boarding school, partially to get away from him. I just need to survive the next few months. Not even, because i will be going to sleepaway camp and wont be seeing him there.
It always gets worse when we are stressed out, and finals are coming up and I dont know how thats going to affect him.
I have an older sister, who gets abusive when she needs to get him away, but it just angers him more. My mom doesnt know what to do , because all the medication isnt working, that well. It has gotten better, but its still pretty bad. And my dad works late, so when he comes, my brother is usually calmed down.
leonll- same with my brother and I ! but its not the next day, its like 20 minutes later ! and thn he gets mad at me for not accepting my apology. then i feel bad, but i dont want to make it seem like what he did is forgivable or acceptable in any way. there have been too many times where i would have to put on pounds of makeup to comer the bruises he has given me.
Also there is a mental scar that he has left me. One, to see that a what seems like a sweet 14 year old boy, can do so much harm, is just, astounding. And its not just him. The realization that this ability is within all of us, thats what made me scared. I am scared for what i would do back for self defense.
I have already kicked him in the chin while he was coming at me and made his mouth bleed. I felt so bad. and to realize that he had done so much more to me, and still to this day, will say that i deserved it. Not one ounce of regret.
Another mental scar he has left me is all those names and comments he has said. My self esteem has dropped tremendously since his behavior has gotten worse. I try everything to bring it back up, but every time i hear his voice in the back of my mind saying things and it just brings me lower. It shouldnt, and Im not a very sensitive person, but just when he says it, I sort of believe what he is saying.
I will definitely keep you all posted and thanks so much for the responses, it truly means a lot.