If it were me, I would find an adult I could trust like a teacher or someone like that to talk to.

That is what I had recommended, a teacher, an older friend or a school counselor who I trusted. I hope the links I sent to your inbox were somewhat helpful. Sick with flu, so probably will be resting after work, but hoping you have a peaceful night.

At the very least, write down what you observe in a journal. giving a child alcohol is against the law, and child abuse. Keep a record of what happens so if child protective services gets involved, they have more information to go on.

But also remember that it does take tremendous courage to stand up to this, and you aren't doing anything wrong if you don't have that strength right now. You aren't at all responsible for what your parents do.

I would also suggest looking into al-anon. It's a group designed for friends and family of alcoholics. It's helped me.

I'm about ready to go to my youth minister with this. My mom and dad keep giving my baby sister an empty beer bottle and say she's not gonna die from licking the bottle.

please tell this pastor if you trust him. This is not normal, this is not healthy, this is not okay. Please keep in mind that your parents have likely done many things like this so it may be hard to see how unhealthy this is when you're seeing odd behavior frequently. You are reaching out with great instincts. Learn to trust them and they will help you immensely!

I'm sorry you are in the middle of this but you wanting to step up says a lot about your character. :-)

Please tell any adult whom
you trust. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am. I have a splitting headache from dealing with my mom's crap.

Sorry you had that headache :(

Good for you wanting to tell someone! Hope it goes well for you and that you and your siblings get the help you deserve.

I don't think I could write on here what I think of your parents' behaviour... suffice it to say, NOT good. Nowhere near.

Hugs to you, love xxx

Thank you. I find my mom's behavior unacceptable and I'm tired of dealing with her. She threatened to burn my book because I was reading it. She asked me something and I answered her but not very loud. She then said why didn't you answer me? I told her I did but not very loud and repeated myself. I told her I wanted to read. She said no you just are pissy about yesterday. And she started mocking me. Then she said she'd take my book outside and burn it.

To kevin's suggestion about alanon, I think it would be very helpful for you to try. There are also many alateen groups held after school, depending on your area. You can call the local alanon number in your area and ask when & where the alateen meetings are held. It can be reassuring to know you are not alone in this and they can offer IRL support.

Be sure and try several groups to see which one you feel the most comfortable in. Each group will have it's own 'personality' and like everything in life, some will feel better than others.

Listen to your intuition and TRUST your gut on which one feels right for you. Those of us who grew up in alcoholic &/or abusive homes tend to not trust our instincts or our intuition.

You are a highly intelligent and very caring young woman. I am sorry you have to deal with all of this. Please take good care of yourself!

Thank you. I would go to alanon groups but I don't have a car or license. Plus what would I tell my mom? She would make fun of and mock me for it.

Understood. Just keep it in the back of your mind for the future for when you can. :-)

I will. But once I get a license later this year and if I get a car I will go to those meetings. What do I seriously tell my mom?

That's a good question. All I know to suggest is that you have time to think about it and hopefully you will have had a chance to find someone like a counselor to talk with before then and they can help you figure out what to say that keeps you safe and in integrity with your belief system. For now just take it a day or an hour or even a minute at a time and stay focused on your self-care.
~hugs~