Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hello all,
As some of you know I wrote the post on divorcing my family. Well, now the drama has lead to my marriage life. I have been married for 20 years and have children. My husband has always been verbally abusive towards me. There was also a time where I had to leave for a couple of weeks because it got abusive.
This past month we haven't been talking. Mainly because he can't stand my family and I can't stand his. He went on a rampage in front of the children and broke all the glass in the kitchen pushed me down the stairs and threw a mug of tea at me while verbally attacking me.
What set him off was I asked him, why does he look so miserable all the time. I knew the real reason was he didn't want to go to see my half sister's new house. Since I haven't seen his family in 9 months again thanks to my Dad.
All of the 20 years of marriage our arguments would always revolve around our families. I have taken the step to move out of our room and move into the guest room. He didn't even budge. He comes home from the gym every night at 9:00pm and leaves me to basically deal with everything from finances to groceries and raising of our children.
I want him to leave but he will not. My 8 year old cries at night and thinks we will be having a divorce. My 18 year old son doesn't even care about my feelings and sides with his Dad. I have been feeling so down with what is going on with my family and now with my marriage. So exhausted I don't know what to do.
I did feel great not talking to him for a month not even seeing his miserable face and listening to his negative thoughts all the time. How long do I need to isolate my self in my own home? How do I get him to go? I feel a knot every time he comes into the house. The weekend is worse.
I know he will not change. He thinks he is the man and what he says goes. Because I do not work I can't just pick up and get an apartment. I feel I'm stuck in this hole and can't get out.
Sorry for the venting but it does help.
As some of you know I wrote the post on divorcing my family. Well, now the drama has lead to my marriage life. I have been married for 20 years and have children. My husband has always been verbally abusive towards me. There was also a time where I had to leave for a couple of weeks because it got abusive.
This past month we haven't been talking. Mainly because he can't stand my family and I can't stand his. He went on a rampage in front of the children and broke all the glass in the kitchen pushed me down the stairs and threw a mug of tea at me while verbally attacking me.
What set him off was I asked him, why does he look so miserable all the time. I knew the real reason was he didn't want to go to see my half sister's new house. Since I haven't seen his family in 9 months again thanks to my Dad.
All of the 20 years of marriage our arguments would always revolve around our families. I have taken the step to move out of our room and move into the guest room. He didn't even budge. He comes home from the gym every night at 9:00pm and leaves me to basically deal with everything from finances to groceries and raising of our children.
I want him to leave but he will not. My 8 year old cries at night and thinks we will be having a divorce. My 18 year old son doesn't even care about my feelings and sides with his Dad. I have been feeling so down with what is going on with my family and now with my marriage. So exhausted I don't know what to do.
I did feel great not talking to him for a month not even seeing his miserable face and listening to his negative thoughts all the time. How long do I need to isolate my self in my own home? How do I get him to go? I feel a knot every time he comes into the house. The weekend is worse.
I know he will not change. He thinks he is the man and what he says goes. Because I do not work I can't just pick up and get an apartment. I feel I'm stuck in this hole and can't get out.
Sorry for the venting but it does help.
It totally sucks especially if you know the best thing to do is get out but have personal reasons why it's not feasable. Mine are medical.
Vent all you want....I just wish I had something to say that would help.
The only other advice I can give is that the next time he gets physically abusive, you call the police and have THEM take him away. That's what I ended up having to do with my ex, because he also refused to leave. I know how that feels.
Sorry you are going through this.