Are you actually pregnant right now? Do you want kids? Or do you and your husband disagree on wanting children? I could see reasons for any of those possibilities affecting a marriage, but unless we know why it's affecting your marriage, it's kind of hard to help.

I have a really awful needle phobia, my periods are god-awful, and I want nothing to do with kids, so pregnancy is about the last thing I'd want anyway. My boyfriend (who I've been dating for over 5 years) at first wanted kids, but now seems to accept the fact that I may never end up wanting them in my life. A natural, complication free childbirth isn't something that I fear, but all the prenatal checkups, a hospital birth, and any kind of complication that would require more tests and/or surgery (and therefore more needles) is >_>.. And since the common trend with doctors these days is too much intervention, as opposed to minimal, you can probably see why that would be a problem..

Hey sweetie...I don't share your phobia (emetophobia is mine) but I can sympathize with any phobia affecting your relationships. I agree with Princess Emmy though...dont' really know what to say without knowing why the phobia is hurting your marriage. I'm always here to talk if you need, and good luck!

Hi Jenny

Firstly just want to say you are not alone, I have suffered from tokophobia since I was about 16. I have had counselling and prescribed anti-depressants which helped me get through everyday life. I know exactly what you are going through but there is hope. If you really want children you can achieve this. I now have a 17 month old girl and I never thought I would say this but I would have another. When I found out I was pregnancy it was instant panic and more anti-depressants but after the first 3-4 months things got better everyday and I enjoyed my pregnancy. I got the ball rolling in about 2002 by contacting my GP and hospital to discuss booking a c-section which I made sure they confirmed in writing to me. My GP and hospital were very understanding as they had dealt with this before and I had no problem getting a c-section.

Hope this helps.

Hi I was just officially diagnosed with tokophobia last year, I don't know anyone who has it and I'm terrified. It takes over my everyday thoughts. Know your not alone but help??