I'm so sorry you're still grieving the loss of your baby. I don't think we ever really get over our loss, we just learn to live without them. My heart is still breaking over the loss of my baby girl. I had her for 16 years and it's been almost 5 months since she's gone.
Is it possible your unhappiness is based on your grief? For me, I found blocking my emotions caused a ripple affect. I may not feel sad, but I also don't feel joy. It's like being numb, living in limbo. People around you may not understand or know how to help.
I hope you're able to move on and find joy in your life.
Hugs xoxo

Maybe if you try to find things to do to feel better-then your general marriage and you r job will take on a different view and you will start feeling better all around-smokey would want you too

Thank you both for your support.
To nacydan, I'm starting to believe that my unhappiness isn't based on my greif but more so my life in general. Maybe if I was happier in like I said marriage and job I wouldn'd be so caught up in the saddness of lossing our cat.
To annettear, I am trying to muster up the energy to put into something I enjoy, but the unhappiness is draining me. Some days I have to find the energy to get out the bed or house. I've tried to list at least 3 things I am grateful for, and I do have somethings to be grateful for, but focusing on those things is really hard at times.

Thank you both again this helps just to be able to talk to someone who understands. (((Hugs))) to you

Thinking of you as you come to the one year anniversary of the loss of your cat Smokey. Know that he is enjoying himself at the Rainbow Bridge and that you will see him again one day. He probably visits you in spirit. When I had another cat put down in 2005, my current cat at the time wondered by the TV and stopped in her tracks and acted like she was touching noses with another cat. Hugs xoxo

hi and sorry your feeling so bad,its coming up to 6 months since i lost clay,and its still so hard.life in general can get you down at times and that coupled with a loss is hard to bear.i too have been having marriage troubles but were trying to move on and get by for the kids,i think work and money pressures contribute a lot too,especially if you arent happy with your job,thats going to make thing harder.focusing on the positive things in your life is good and maybe after christmas you can re-evaluate your life/job/marriage and see if you need to or want to make a change in any of them,in the meantime try to enjoy christmas and have a nice break.i know what the pain of losing your furbaby is like,i imagine when its 1 year on for me i will still be heartbroken too.hope you can find some light in your life,your not alone,people are here with support for you,even if you feel like you've none at home,hugs xx

Just a thought-perhap your local animal shelter-volunteering for them,might help you? A distraction around animals who need some help.I know the thought is scary-but you might try it?

Thank you all for the support. I am trying to smile anyway. I do feel like Smokey is with me in spirit at times. About three days after he passed I was sitting on the sofa he and I often sat on together all of a sudden I smelled a smell that I only smelt when he was near. I took a deep breathe and sure enough it was his scent. Then the smell went away. I guess he was near then.
And yes I have thought about volunteering at an animal shelter. The shelter we adopted our two new kitties from have many animals who need love. Since I can't adopt them all I am looking into volunteering at the shelters.
I pray you all get thru your grief as well and someday be able to look back and smile.
Thank you all for the support. It's good to be able to talk to people who can relate.

Thank you all for your shares.

Hamlet went to Heaven suddenly and unexpectedly on 12/7/13. I adopted him when my brother died almost 9 years ago so I relate to the missing & struggling to feel happy part.

For me each loss has been a trauma. Trying to give myself the gift of time...some days are easier that others...wishing for you stlaries411 something - no matter how small - that will bring you joy every day.

I'm very sorry for your loss Hamley..I can see that losing your furry friend which you had gotten when you lost your brother would even be a more painful loss because you're reliving that time period when you lost your brother. Hamet and your brother I'm sure are taking care of each other now

I think no matter what, loosing your animal is like loosing a child. They love you unconditionally and it is a comfort to have that in your life. It's hard to move forward when you miss them so much.

I do think your crying and upset for both- your baby and your marriage. I struggle with both. I miss Lily and I know my husband is there for me but I wonder if he gets sick of me talking and crying about her so much. He did point out that I did out get first before anyone, including the kids and looking back I did that. I see it now so not only do I miss her like crazy but the guilt from not being there for everyone sets in.

I'm sending you big hugs!