I'm so sorry for your loss and your pain. I don't think the pain goes away, but you are just able to function better in time. My cat Inky died on May 10 and I still cry a lot. I slept with his ashes the other night. It is hard to believe we will never see our babies again. This is the worst loss of my life. You are not alone. It breaks my heart that so many people feel this horrible pain. You and your baby were lucky to have each other as long as you did. It's not fair that their lifespan is so much shorter than ours. I hope you find some moments of peace knowing you were a great mom. Xoxo Lisa

i truly know how you feel my Benny died july 3rd a few weeks ago it is the worst pain i ever felt
and still is but i bought a new puppy named joey and all the work it takes for this little guy is keeping my mind busy
he is so sweet and keeps me going
i thought i could never love another and im already in love with him 14 week old beagle
hugs to you and i think another little one is what you should do jean

I am so very sorry for your loss cath04. I know your pain well!
Our beloved dog passed away 3 months ago and it is still VERY
painful. Just now a fire truck zoomed by and it only reminds me of Cujo tilting his hear back and HOWLING.

Your doggie sounds like our doggie. He helped our adult son to deal with his deep depression. He was 13 years old when he passed away. We were all circled around him at home when he passed away We each got to tell him how much we loved him and what a wonderful job he did for our son.

It sounds like your dogs mission was to be there for YOU. Now like our son you can show your dog that what he did here on this earth has paid off big time for you. He would want only the best for YOU!!!!!!!

We grieved our Cujo and still remember him so lovingly. Now we
can talk and share wonderful memories (like the fire truck) without
bursting into tears. It will take some time for you to mourn your friend. Take that time! We were not ready to run out and get another pet. Some are others need time.

Praying for your heart today!

I know the pain you are feeling. I wish I could make it go away but "when" you will stop feeling so much pain varies, but I promise you, it will fade to the point where you will one day be able to smile and cry when you tell stories about your fur-baby and not feel that desperate pain.

I've had 3 big cat losses in my life. It doesn't get any easier. You can't replace any with another, but I've learned in time that you can love another pet and bond in a very different way. My first big loss was Cazzie who was 17 yo when he died quietly in the bed beside me. I was in a state of shock really. I called a friend in the middle of the night to help me. I went into a deep depression and the vet was worried about me. I went to a grief support group every week at the SF/SPCA for 6 months. After a year I felt ready to adopt another cat.

I adopted 2 cats this time, so different from Cazzie, but in time the bonds form again. What was so traumatizing about their loss was that one of them got Cancer at 13 yo, and I went through chemotherapy with him for 2 months hoping for a miracle. During this time, my other cat, also 13, came home with an incurable liver problem and I wound up having to put him to sleep while I was treating my other for Cancer.

To make a long story short, I now have 2 6 year old cats that I love and adore just as much as my previous babies, something I never, ever expected. I'm not sure I can take another loss; all I know is that I lover them now and that's all I can do.

I'm so sorry.

I know how you feel. I lost my Abby at 17 years old 5 weeks ago and it was awful at first. I still wasn't coping and didn't know if I ever could so I decided to get another companion. I believe Abby's spirit led me to her. She looks like her and is also a black lab mix. It doesn't make the hurt go away, but it puts it to the back of your mind. I still have Abby pangs but I can cope with them better now. Bella will never replace Abby but she brings back memories of her when she was young and that makes me smile. I don't know if it would help you, only do this if you feel it is right. We got Bella from the Humane Society and it makes me happy to know we will make her life so much better and it is in honor of my Abby. God give you peace through your pain.

Hi guys and thanks for your messages.

Well it's been 5 days since I put my feline furbaby Tigger to sleep, and it feels so much longer than that.......every little thing I do reminds me of him. Last night I got some knitting out as my cousin-in-law is pregnant and I was going to knit a little cardigan for the baby.....and I started to cry, Tigger would come running as soon as he heard the knitting needles, he would go mad for them, chasing them around and around.....used to be a game we would play as soon as i got them out, this time there was no-one there to play it with me..........

We have a 11 month old puppy which we've had since 8 weeks old, so Tigger got to know her, and she is what is keeping me going at present......she and Tigger used to get on so well......we have pictures of them sharing a bone......think she is missing him as well - this weekend we got her a bone, but she has ignored it more or less.....think it reminds her of Tigger and how they used to share a bone........

We have said we would like a playmate for Alexi, but that Tigger wouldn't cope with another puppy or older dog, and said once Tigger had gone we would think about it - we will probably rehome a dog/puppy - but I don't feel the time is right yet - it would just feel like we were replacing Tigger. My neighbors breed guinea pigs, and Jane wants one of them, `to keep our rabbit company', but I feel she is doing it in order to replace Tigger, I know she isn't......but it feels like she is just trying to replace him........

I know Tigger had a good life, and what I did was for the best, but I still feel really bad for taking his life........when he gave me so much......

One day maybe it was ease.........I just hope it's soon.....maybe when I get his ashes back that will help .........

Thanks again everyone for your support

Cath

I am so sorry for your pain. I just had my 16 yr old put down today. I refused to let him suffer. I owed him better than that. He has been with me since he was conceived, I played with him while he was still in the womb and he was born into my hands. Like your's he gave me a reason to live and to function as well. I too have depression. But he needed to be taken care of. I have agoraphobic but i had to leave the house to walk him and i did. The pain does pass but so gradually you won't notice it passing till you notice you remember him and no longer cry but only smile. When you no longer grieve that it's over (he died) but smile that it happened (You had each other all that time.). Is that his picture? He's quite the handsome guy. I say is because that's what i belief. I don't know what your beliefs are but i believe Nushie is waiting for me. I believe he is with me now watching and guarding me and will always be. I believe he sees me and hears me when i talk to him now - he had gotten blind and deaf in his old age. I am grieving true but not a permanent loss. Nothing is lost if you know where it is. Hugs

I lost my Charlie on Thursday and also suffer from depression. I can honestly say I know exactly how you feel. I feel pain and sadness I can't look at his photo or even think about him without crying. I can't help but think about my boy and how much I miss him. I don't have the energy to do anything. I have to work tomorrow and I truly have no idea how I will be able to put a strong face on when deep in side I am screaming and crying. I am frustrated because he died in the evening so there was no way to preserve him to be cremated when that is what I wanted because I would have bought on of those bereavement necklaces so that I could keep a piece of him with me forever. Now He is got forever and I have nothing. I am here if you want to talk. I looks like we have more in common that just the loss of our special friends.