I am so so sorry that you are grieving for both a parent and a pet...that is gonna be a hard chunk to chew up and swallow....wish I could tell you that I knew there were better things in your future but that is not my idea of lending help...I wish it was because it is easy to say....so sorry your path behind house is bringing tears to you as others walk their lovely pet along that path...it would seem to me maybe a new pet is in order for you to love on and get over the grief of this loss and also heal that loss of Mom too...I am sure they would agree if a new pet would help out they would want you to get one today

I'm sorry you lost both of your family members so close together,.Some members here have made memorials of some sort-be it doggy toys or photos or writing a note and sending it to heaven on a balloon..
Some even keep a stuffed animal nearby for holding

Thank you, I had her cremated and was going to take some of her ashes to the trail we went to every day only I can't part with any of them. I feel the same way about my mom's ashes. I think I will however do the ballon thing. I write on both there Facebook walls as well as send them messages. I don't ever see myself getting another pet, I just can't put myself through this again.

I understand that-it is hard for me to move anything in our home-but have had to and not sure if I remember where to put things back the way my mother had it..
You never know that some day you might come across a fuzzy/furry face whose look is just telling you that you need each other-but there isno rush and you will know when it is time

I am so sorry for your loss. I know it hurts. Missing them never goes away, but it does get easier to deal with.

My husband and I waited about 6 months before getting a new dog (then we ended up getting two). I'm glad we waited. During that time -- three months of it -- I worked on creating a photo story book about our first dog. Doing that was really therapeutic for me. If there is something you enjoy doing, like graphic design, or painting, or gardening, or whatever, I'd suggest finding a way to incorporate your pet into that activity and see if that brings you some peace.

Having our new babies has helped. I was still crying over Rupert every day, and having Nugget and Dudley has helped so much with that. And I know exactly what I'm in for this time around, but I don't care. I really believe that Rupert brought these two babies to us -- that he chose them for us to help us heal. They were both shelter dogs, and Nugget was not at all the kind of pup I was looking for. I wanted another male (all my dogs have always been male), and a schnauzer. But I couldn't get Nugget out of my head, and finally went back and got her. I know why now -- she's so perfect for me. And poor baby was mistreated, if not outright abused. She was a runaway. Call me crazy, but I think Rupert got her to run away, and brought us together because he knew I would love her the way she should be loved. He was looking out for both of us. Rupert did have a soft heart when it came to hurt animals (he brought me to an injured baby squirrel, twice).

Anyway, I know it's hard to think about adopting another dog right now. If the time comes for you to do it, you'll know. For now, just let yourself grieve however you need to, and don't let anyone tell you how long it "should" take. It will take however long you need it too.

I'm so sorry about your loss, it's just awful waking up every day without our most beloved... we all know how this feels. 3 months today since my little girl became a little furry angel...and some years since dad's gone... I cry all the time too. I've got two new furbabies, one from the refuge, one who arrived here hurt and has become big brother to the baby. I couldn't remain all alone without Moony. These two little demons help a lot, I love them but they'll never replace Moony...my heart is still hollow... there are some moments of calm but I haven't reach the stage of acceptance, it comes at different time for each of us. I wish you peace! I hope you're not completely alone and can get some loving hugs for comfort! My furbabies and I are sending you a big one!

So sorry for the loss of your parent and your fur baby. I know how hard it is because I lost my little Nikki a three years ago and my old Tommy two years ago. I am always reminded of them. It might help to make a memorial of your poor little fur baby and hang it on the wall. I said that after my Nikki passed away that I would never get another dog because it broke my heart when she left us, but my heart just ached for one after so after about a year we got a puppy. So maybe in time you might feel like finding another pet.

Thank you all very much for your kindness. The closer it gets to her birthday (February 14th) the harder it is, she would have been 10 this year. I was talking to my beastie today and she said "Gf you have to find away to get thru this.) she's right. I just don't know how. I think of her and my mom day & night .

taking each moment as it comes is how we get by...because they would want us to.Perhaps on valentines day in honor of your furry pal=you make a donation at a humane society or a vets office of a blanket or pet food=or just get yourself a special stuffed animal or go out to eat in her honor...

Dog food to the humane society is a great idea. I think some of her favorite treats as well.

Will be thinking of you and your beautiful girl on the 14th! Birthdays and special dates are always so hard! Maybe you could go to a special new place she would have liked? When I discover some new beautiful place I think of my Moony a little more peacefully, nature and beauty are soothing. Courage!
Hug
Lou

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is. Try and remember the good times & know the love between you never dies.

Well my husband had enough of my crying all the time (can't say i blame him) that we were just going to "look", yeah right. We adopted a rescue dog 6 weeks ago her name is Addi. I know the min she jumped on my husband and liking his face like a long lost friend we were not leaving without her. Addi was brought up here by a rescue group and had been in foster care, she is still a pup at 15 months old . She can't ever take the place of my Kala girl but she sure fills the void & we love her. Now I'm not sure how to post her pic but if I figure it out i will do so. Warning she's a very odd looking to me ( blk lab pointer mix).

that is good...take good care of her and never let her off leash on street....my neighbors doggie got hit today right in front of the two of us by speeding car and needed to be put down...sad she was a foster baby and so tiny little like carnes terrier i think...her name was Sadie....sad...I had asked the friend who had five dogs coming out of her yard to the car if she needed help as I saw one dog run across the street....she said yes I said wait one minute and ducked into my house to get something I left inside for second...just that second or ten could possibly have saved Sadie if I had gone straight to help her...she only had three dogs on leash and two were running free...one ran out from behind her car right into path of speeding car that never saw her...she was tiny maybe 12 lbs wet...

Oh no! That is very sad :'( the only time Addi is off her leash is when we are on the trail, she never very far from me as she has very insure .