I'm sorry, but I don't know what cbt is. I'm sure someone will respond that knows. I do know the two treatments for us that are recommended are DBT-Dialectical Behavior Therapy and EMDR-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. I haven't been blessed with access to either yet.

Yes, there is help for us. Some of us have received treatment and fully recovered. I think it comes from learning a whole new way of thinking towards problems and conflicts.

I have just been reading self help books. I don't even have insurance so I definately can't afford treatment. I'm just fortunate enough that my old docs have grown tired of giving me samples. My meds. alone were over $400 with insurance. I have no idea what they would be now.

I hope someone will respond to you question with the knowledge of what you are asking about. What ever you have faith in-hold tight to that faith. For me it is the Holy Trinity. When people and the world around me are crumbling-I still have total and complete faith that God will be with me. He always has been-even through the bad times.

Good luck dear,
Tamara

hi i don't know whether i can be of any help but a few months back i felt like you i'm in a simelar type of thearpy i thought it was doing me no good for weeks but then it started to make sense.

I have done CBT too, but not for BPD. I had it because I also have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. CBT was brilliant for my OCD but for my BPD I had Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT).

Like Tobi2 said, DBT is normally the best therapy for our illnes.And yes it can be seen as an illness at its worse but I like to think of it as a result of my life experiences. I grew up in a invalidating environment (classic BPD symptom)therfore did not learn appropiate life skills to live a stable life.

DBT helped me because it taught me life skills, how to react to different situations,how to have a relationship, how to cope with my emotions. Until DBT I never knew how to do these things!

It has a very successful reputation, if the person isready for the herapy. It is hard and intensive but worth it. I haven't heard of CBT used to treat BPD before. I think CBT is ore about your behaviour and changing your thinking.

DBT does that, but is a really understanding therapy. You need to be in group therapy, and the leaders fully trained in DBT and they should know BPD inside out! Unlike your current Doc! I think you need someone who will understand your diagnosis and hopefully DBT would give u that.

Can u ask for it? I have heard it hard to get it though so u may need to search or jus get a new therapist.

Am hoping u will get help soon

thanks to all am from the uk so not meny docs understand it my doc said they whot help people with bpd i dont know why any way thank you all hugs and peace

The CBT is helpful (sometimes) with trying to stay focused. I find that I get "spinny" brain sometimes and jump from 0-100 in my thoughts. If I work through with what I'm thinking or feeling, and try to come up with rational thoughts or evidence to support my thoughts, it slows my brain down and helps me make a more reasonable thought and then feel better. DBT is the same... going from "Emotional" mind or "Rational" mind, into the center and staying with "Wise" mind is what will help with emotion regulation and better thoughts. Try this website dbtselfhelp.com it has lots of help. Some of the worksheet my DBT therapy group used came from this website... since I've been out of group, I still check it often for a refresher. Cause even though we can learn some better skills for dealing with BPD, sometimes, it's really hard to put those skills to practice.

One thing that my DBT counsellor had said, that really stuck with me is this... She said we always say " I AM bipolar", but that's not true... she said we would say, "hello, I'm diabetes... or hello, I'm epilepsy"... but we say we ARE bipolar. We have bipolar, just like some people have diabetes... but that isn't what we are. And just like someone with another illness, that learns how to manage and deal with it, we need to learn how to manage our illness. The illness is something we have, but it isn't who we are.

I hope this helps... and I would say if your psychologist or psychiatrist says they just can't help you... then keep looking for someone else, there has to be help, sometimes we just need to demand it. Best of luck!!!

I'm in England too. It took me years until i found about DBT, luckily my mental health centre runs the group and I easily got accepted into it.

Which part of UK are u from? Im from north somerset.

Sorry forgot to say, but I think I may know why your doctor said he wouldnt help people with BPD. Some doctors/therapists won't work with us because some of them believe it is a very difficult illness to treat and that it can take a long time to treat. Others believe its not treatable at all.

It sounds nasty I know, but I have heard this is meant to be true. As it can be very hard to change our personalities when we have been like this for years. I'ts like trying to retrain or rewire our brains to learn new skills and its difficult. But in my opinion its not impossible. There are some therapists who also do believe there is hope for us, we just need to find them! Im lucky i have got my american therapist and she is very knowledgable on dbt.