Honestly, i think it depends, i would say a small %..........I sure CAN NOT.

I am Borderline and live with my girlfriend who is bipolar. We are quite happy together and in love because we understand that the other deals with afflictions that can complicate relationships.
Understanding and an open line of communtication are key to making it work. I couldn't imagine it working if one of us was "normal" and blissfully ignorant.

I've just had a 10 year marriage end. But one of her major reasons for being with me from the beginning is that she wanted to "fix" me. The last 5 years were hell for both of us though... someone who understands what BPD means and what to expect is required for any relationshop to last. Good luck in all your future relationships

I am just 2 months out of what became an abusive relationship with a woman who has BPD. She has left behind a string of at least 9 relationships I (now) know of, most lasting less than one year and none more than 2 years.

I kept blaming myself and so I read up on it. I have to agree with your assessment that long term intimate relationships are the exception rather than the rule for most people with BPD, but, and this is a very important but, it surely can be done with a lot of love, patience, understanding and counseling for all concerned.

Best wishes,

Henry

I have not been formally diagnosed with BPD but all of the signs are there for me. It explains why my last marriage fell apart and why my current one is strained beyond belief. I think its possible to have a relationship but it takes very patient spouses/partners to understand you. If my current husband was not so forgiving of me I would probably be divorced again right now.

only 6 months in a relationship at the moment it is very hard for borderlines to stay in a realationship the partner has to understand and accept borderline as apart of you
takes alot of patience my other relationship lasted nearly a year he was sick of the constant of me breaking up with him n me never wanting him to leave even for work i was undianoged tho (newly proclaimed bpd this year)
have to find someone whom is very patient
not alot of help sorry

I've been in a relationship for two years now and we've been living together for a year. My boyfriend is "normal" but I explained thoroughly to him the type of problems I have, and I make it clear when something is bpd/anxiety related and when something is just me being a bitch. It can be difficult to be taken seriously in an argument when he really has done something wrong :)
He's really patient with me, and in return i try and give him all the information I can about how I'm feeling, and I try to hold back and respect and protect him from my bpd whenever possible. You need to know that you can't just act out all the time, even though its really tough. Its really hard and a lot of work, but its worth it.

by the way, I aint superior I cant hold down a job lol

Been married 8 years

I have been married almost 18yrs and I am BP and my husband is BP and I think he is also BPD. He left me and the kids 1 1/2yrs ago during his 1st real manic episode. Hes in denial of everything but I think if he got treatment we would be together forever. It all depends on treatment.