Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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sleepykitten 01/12/2009

im finding it difficult to be normal, i have quit my job for the third time, I think they will be sick of me by now.
My relationship was going ok but i cheated on him.
Things are not going well for me right now, anyone have any advice on how i can do better?

deleted_user 01/12/2009

Yeah, I have never really felt "normal", but I would say just don't blame yourself.
That's what we tend to do, I think, but if we knew how to make our lives easier, then we would.

deleted_user 01/13/2009

I've quit so many jobs I can't count! There's so much pressure to be normal but really it doesn't matter. You are who you are and that's ok.

My advice would be to take each day as it comes. My opinion is is that if it's not a life or death situation then it doesn't matter. Things can be dealt with another day. The only person putting pressure on you is you. Take things slowly and find things that you enjoy.

deleted_user 01/13/2009

normal doesn't exist. everyone struggles. i have quit so many jobs, and have struggled with relationships. i get bored and restless so easily. i've learned to just accept things and work with them...so instead, i'm going to find a way to be happy and satisfied in my own right (not according to what society projects). Day by day - you're okay.

deleted_user 01/13/2009

Try to find a therapist who practices DBT. Research it. It is supposed to do wonders on people with BPD. Good Luck

deleted_user 01/14/2009

Find a therapist who uses DBT or who specialises in Borderline clients hook them up with your GP so they both work together for best medication outcomes and treatments and start working on getting better, DBT really helps

deleted_user 01/15/2009

i dont know how many times i have left my job...this past year i think i have been thr 4 or 5 jobs... just this past year alone.... its like i get close to being normal with a house an awesome job things are going really good and i dont know what happenes but its like i dont want it.. kinda like im scared of it.. its like its not normal unless im fighting for something... (not really fighting but hurting for something).
Im taking it one day at a time and when i get the feeling of wow this is to normal for me and get ready to take off again i stop myself.. its been working but who knows how long its going to last for.. the best thing i can say it take it one day at a time hun.. lots of lve

sleepykitten 01/20/2009

thankyou for all the support ive been given. I find it scary how well my life was going a few weeks ago and how badly ive fucked it up, i feel completely out of controll. i will definatly talk to my doctor about dbt.

deleted_user 01/22/2009

I know how that is. I stopped working because I couldn't deal with people very easily. I haven't ever dated nor touched a girl due to my shyness as a result of lack of social experience. I don't get out much anymore and thus have no friends where I live right now. I'm trying to get better so I can get out of the house, because, I want to find a friend, and maybe a girlfriend one day.

I wonder who I'd be if things were different?

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