Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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mysticrose 02/10/2009

I saw my shrink today and asked him flat out what he thought was wrong with me. I've seen him for 4 sessions now but have had 4 admissions to hospital in 6wks toward the end of last year, only overnight stays and a breakdown in November 2007 which is when the borderling personality traits started to jump out of the drs mouths. Anyway today my shrink said that my background was the same as those suffering from borderline personality disorder, childhood abuse, childhood sexual abuse, anorexia, abandonment, neglect, bla bla bla. So he said he could see where the diagnosis came from, only I haven't been diagnosed, until now it was only talk of traits. So I'm thinking that borderline personality is the diagnosis but I'm still clinging to denial. I think he was trying to tell me as gently as possible, also telling me there was no quick fix and that I needed to see him continually for some time. Does it sound like a diagnosis, being told that I matched the profile??

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deleted_user 02/10/2009

Sorry, I don't know what to advise you on this. I've never heard of a doc waffling so much in telling you whether you have just the traits or the full-blown diagnosis. The only thing I can say is that maybe you should see another doc for 2nd opinion. Or better yet, read up on it yourself rather than be at the mercy of doctors. But whatever book you get, DO NOT get I Hate You Don't Leave Me. In spite of what everyone says this is NOT a good book for bpds; it just made me feel worse about myself than I already felt and I came very close to suicide while reading it. If you ever do need to talk please feel free to contact me.

tyzz27 02/11/2009

Hun as much as you hate the idea of getting such a disagnosis it doesnt mean the the diagnosis proclaims to the rest of the world "Hi Im BPD" but rather you are still Mysticrose with BPD.

I know for a fact that you have read up on this stuff and you know quite well that you have the characteristics and thus the diagnosis. All one needs is to have 5 out of the 9 and you have it. Personally I think that 4 sessions the psych is still getting to know you and thus doesnt want to come straight out and say it. I think it will only be a matter of time before he makes it official.

Contrary to what you think just because you may have a diagnosis does not immediately proclaim that youre going to spend more time as an inpatient in hospital.

I think you have taken some huge steps in simply telling the psych about your life. It was only a little while ago that you beleived that what you went through as child wasnt child abuse and that your parents behviour was typical of all parents and when you get a dickhead of a husband telling you that he was entitled to do what he did and no judge would argue with what he thought juat continued to keep you on the zone of denial.

Your a brilliant person contrary to what you think. I think all the people I have met with BPD are incredible people but due to many *&^%$#$ in their lives have reverted to surviving/living in a particular way.

GETTING A DIAGNOSIS DOES NOT SUDDENLY MAKE YOU A DIFFERENT PERSON

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deleted_user 02/11/2009

Just come straight out and ask him. There is an assessment they can do, to see if you have BPD or not, you have to match a certain amount of criteria.

Def find out, as if you have it you can get treated quicker. I found out i had BPD via a letter from a psych i'd only seen once!!!Which is bad, he could have told me to my face and explained what BPD was as id never heard of it!

I told my usual therapist(i was already in therapy for OCD), but she wouldnt explain BPD to me as she thought it was best to concentrate on OCD.

A few years went by, me wondering what BPD was and not being treated for it-i got worse! eventually i had a new therapist and told her i WANTED to find out for sure whether i had BPD.

She got me a assessment and yes i had it. Even now im angry they didnt support me sooner!It delayed treatment(DBT) which was fantastic.

So go for it, get the assessment!good luck

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