Personality Disorders Support Group
Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.
i have bpd with abandonment issues among other things .i'm 55 and have never spent more than two days on my own.
when i met my partner she was aware of this. but when her family wanted to take them abroad as they cant drive(i wasnt invited) she never even asked would i be ok on my own for 10 days. i never said much ,i mean what could i say. she went yesterday to pick this uncle up to go back to her aunts then they all was going to the airport today on this fly drive holiday. i had two phone calls yesterday one saying she had got to her uncles then one tea time yesterday to say she had got to her aunts. yet never bothered ringing me this morning before they left for airport. i thought the whole point of her getting a contract mobile phone was to keep in touch while she was away. but then she said she would be charged roaming charges. she arrives back next saturday but she isnt coming straight home,her uncle wants to go back to her aunts. so my partner is taking him home the next day.yet there are alot of her family who could take him back they wont be working on a sunday. its a 4 hour journey from her aunts to her uncles so it will be late sunday when she finally comes home. i'm getting mood swings,i tried keeping busy to distract but my moods are swinging from anger at her,anger at her family,scared of being on my own. i'm scared of going into crisis ,i dont like being so long on my own with my thoughts,they start racing.
when i met my partner she was aware of this. but when her family wanted to take them abroad as they cant drive(i wasnt invited) she never even asked would i be ok on my own for 10 days. i never said much ,i mean what could i say. she went yesterday to pick this uncle up to go back to her aunts then they all was going to the airport today on this fly drive holiday. i had two phone calls yesterday one saying she had got to her uncles then one tea time yesterday to say she had got to her aunts. yet never bothered ringing me this morning before they left for airport. i thought the whole point of her getting a contract mobile phone was to keep in touch while she was away. but then she said she would be charged roaming charges. she arrives back next saturday but she isnt coming straight home,her uncle wants to go back to her aunts. so my partner is taking him home the next day.yet there are alot of her family who could take him back they wont be working on a sunday. its a 4 hour journey from her aunts to her uncles so it will be late sunday when she finally comes home. i'm getting mood swings,i tried keeping busy to distract but my moods are swinging from anger at her,anger at her family,scared of being on my own. i'm scared of going into crisis ,i dont like being so long on my own with my thoughts,they start racing.
Unfortunately, sometimes you will be alone for a while. It sucks, but eventually you learn to get through it. There was a time I couldn't enter a store by myself. Now I have tools I carry to help me. Flashcards, squeeze balls, play dough, a keychain, and a stuffed animal. Sounds silly, but it helps me stay in the present moment.
Hope this helps!