Personality Disorders Support Group

Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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vintagegurl84 07/26/2010

I've recently found out that I have Borderline Personality Disorder. For so long I've always wondered why I was so fucked up. Now I know what my mental illness is but I do not know where to go from here or what to do at this point in my life. I just recently told a close friend ot mine and it didn't go good at all. I felt rejected and like she really just didn't understand and now I am embarrassed and feel stupid that I even said anything to her. I just don't know what to do at this point and I'm so frustrated. It's like an un-ending nightmare and it really sucks.

deleted_user 07/26/2010

Well what do you intending on doing about it?

vintagegurl84 07/27/2010

I don't know really what to do about it? Any suggestions? I'm new to all this. I've gone to counseling after counseling and nothing never helps or works.

deleted_user 07/27/2010

You need to take a stand for yourself. DBT theraphy works for BPD, although I have not been thru it myself. Reasearch and read up on it educate yourself..be proactive!

deleted_user 07/31/2010

I've been to so many therapy sessions and nothing has worked. I saw another psychiatrist who has now places me on a waiting list for CAT and Psychodynamic therapy although he said the waiting list is about 6 to 8 months long.

I've been told to stay away from self help books as they only make the problem worse.

My sister in law freaked a bit when she found out I had BPD. Also, I told a colleague at work about it, and she said that she'd be so embarrassed to tell people that and how it would make it hard to get a job cuz she says that stuff stays on your permanant record. I was so angry and disgusted by her. First off, there's nothing embarrassing about it. At least, I don't think so. And at least I'm getting help. Secondly, no job will know I have BPD unless I choose to tell them.

xx

deleted_user 08/03/2010

I told a close friend yesterday about my BPD & he told me "I doubt any such thing exists." Told him about going on meds yesterday and he told me "don't take the meds." My brother, an MD, last Thursday night told me to not take them either. "There is nothing wrong with you. Just quit your job." Easy for him to say.

Very common for those not informed to just believe us "quirky" or worse. Very common for uninformed to not know the difference shown in brain scans between "normal" (used lightly) and us BPDs.

deleted_user 08/05/2010

I am sorry

MaybeICanHelp 08/06/2010

I recommend getting two books.
1. The Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide by Alexander Chapman and Kim Grantz
2. The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, Jeffrey Wood, and Jeffrey Brantley.
The first book will educate you about the disorder and give advice for how to live with it. The second book is a self-help boof for teaching yourself skills taught in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). If you can get into a DBT program, that would be even better.

deleted_user 08/07/2010

research online and just learn to accept it and forget about the diagnosis, and try to be happy.live life.find support.youll get through this.you can talk to me anytime hun.

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