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Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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Ellocin 03/01/2008

I was diagnosed about 5 years ago with BPD. I thought for sure I had it under control but the last few months I've been so out of control. I can't seem to get control of the self destructive impulses that i have and I'm afraid I'll end up dead before I get them under control again. I feel so much like I'm losing it and i don't know what to do anymore. I've tried all kinds of things to stop being this way but nothing seems to help. I'm getting desperate.

Please if you have any suggestions that have worked for you share them because I need as many ideas as I can get right now.

deleted_user 03/01/2008

The only thing I've tried that has worked (sometimes) is to force myself to time-delay it (the impulses) to refuse to act on them immediatly... I usually pick something that I know will occur (morning/lunch I have to wait until after dinner)
and sometimes I also throw in an "if this happens I will NOT do that" (but that doesn't usually work, and sometimes hurts more itself, and oh bother... my strategy doesn't work when I do that at all, so skip that completly)

ANYWAY... time delay, sometimes you actually change your thinking.

One other strategy is something called "grounding"... but I've never been able to do that... there should be info on it on the web though

Ellocin 03/01/2008

Thanks. That is something that used to work the best for me but doesn't seem to now.

deleted_user 03/02/2008

Yah, not working so good for me recently either, if you hear anything that does, let me know.

deleted_user 03/03/2008

I am sorry I am not sure how to control those impluses myself. I would like to know how to control them as well.

I was just diagnosed with BPD in April 2007 and my impulses always get the better of me

deleted_user 03/03/2008

*BUMP*

HEY OUT THERE... THREE PEOPLE LOOKING FOR SOLUTION(s)

Last night I stopped holding myself, and today I feel rotten because of it, today the only thing that's helping me hold back "major" impulses is the fact that I'm at work (not that it always stops me)... Now I'm replacing them with "goofing" off and being on this sight instead (occupied/busy mind so they don't get to prevelant in this sick ol mind o mine)

deleted_user 03/03/2008

Oh ya, I'm gonna try to post this discussion up in "Depression" and "Bi-Polar", maybe people in there have some ideas.

deleted_user 03/03/2008

Hi I am from the BP board and just wanted you guys to know we got your msg. I wish I had an answer.The taking time thing is good.Also visualization of what will happen if you do the impulse may work.Write down descriptively what you would do,how it will effect you and others,your life.ETC .That may help you keep things in perspective.Good luck to you guys and let us know what you find works.We struggle w/ it too sometimes.:)

deleted_user 03/03/2008

i have a very hard time with impulse control myself...(((hugs)))

deleted_user 03/03/2008

Out of interest, here's the post (and replys) in BP

http://dailystrength.org/c/Bipolar-Disorder/forum/2484129-help-4-members-personality

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