Personality Disorders Support Group
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how do I tell my borderline and what is my natural thinking apart. I'm really confused. my g/f has called me jealous but inside I just feel hurt not jealous. i'll try to explain. we have been together just over 3 years. she is bi polar and I'm borderline. when we met I was with a mentally abusive partner .she was there for me and really compassionate and understanding. we would go out to places even though it was with her friends .we seem to hit it off straight away. but after she moved in slowly she changed she wouldn't go out anywhere with me unless it involved her family. she soon started spending her time on her pc or watching tv.
but this is where I'm confused . she has a sister a few years younger than her about 39. this sister lives about 50 miles away. but if this sister wants to go anywhere my partner is there to take her. even though her sister passed her driving test nearly a year ago all she has to do is hint she's not confident to drive somewhere and my partner willingly says she will go with her. yet if I want to go anywhere all I get is "you can drive yourself you won't get your confidence back if not" as through a accident I lost my confidence. now I'm getting her sister is depressed etc but I have been unstable for months even at times suicidal but my partner hasn't even noticed or bothered when I have told her how I'm feeling. I was chatting to my partners ex of about 20 years ago. I asked her about my partners sister she told me my partners sister was the same back then wanting taking places etc .I'm confused my partner says I'm jealous sometimes and gets angry if I dare say anything she deems negative about her sister. but to be honest I'm hurting that much .
but this is where I'm confused . she has a sister a few years younger than her about 39. this sister lives about 50 miles away. but if this sister wants to go anywhere my partner is there to take her. even though her sister passed her driving test nearly a year ago all she has to do is hint she's not confident to drive somewhere and my partner willingly says she will go with her. yet if I want to go anywhere all I get is "you can drive yourself you won't get your confidence back if not" as through a accident I lost my confidence. now I'm getting her sister is depressed etc but I have been unstable for months even at times suicidal but my partner hasn't even noticed or bothered when I have told her how I'm feeling. I was chatting to my partners ex of about 20 years ago. I asked her about my partners sister she told me my partners sister was the same back then wanting taking places etc .I'm confused my partner says I'm jealous sometimes and gets angry if I dare say anything she deems negative about her sister. but to be honest I'm hurting that much .
I don't know where to start.
First, don't compare yourself to your GF's sister. Just concentrate on you and your GF. If she wants to drive her sister, that's her business.
I'd also work on your accident anxiety- if wouldn't even be an issue if you could drive, right?
Best of luck.
It is normal for couples to settle in after being in a relationship for awhile. I've been married for 17 years. My husband has his face in two laptops, his phone, and iPad all the time. He still loves me. Instead of complaining about it, just state that you would like to schedule some quality time with her.
The sister issue helps her self-worth. I don't think you will be able to fix that one. There are too many variables involved. My aunt used to drive 20 miles if her adult son called to say he was out of cigarettes. He died at age 40 of lung cancer. Some people will never get that they are hindering another's progress.