Many of us love people that are not good for us.

while she probably knows you pretty well, she only knows him through what you say and I'm sure it is one sidedyou are human. You don't really know his side to tell.so in other words, despite being professional, she is prejudiced towards you and against him. If it is obvious by her actions that she doesn't like him, she is not being very professional. She may be right about him, but she may not. Being your therapist, does she not have any involvement in your hospitalizations? Do you not want to go? Does he *force* you?? idk. She just sounds prejudiced. Take it with a grain of salt maybe.

Therapists help us look at our lives from a different perspective so we can see the areas than can be made healthier, a good therapist will teach us the tools to make changes for the better. That's the goal, emotional and mental health.

Your therapist asked you to consider something, she's not saying it's fact, but a possibility. She is making this determination based on what YOU tell her, that's what matters after all, not who your husband really is, but who he is to YOU, and what affect he has on YOU and your mental health.

I agree with what looney1 said. I am also married to a man who is not good for me, who is making my medical condition worse with his personal agenda. And yes, I love him, and that love makes me tolerate many things that hurt me deeply and affects my quality of life. But it's my choice to stay.

While your therapist may suggest that your relationship is not in your best interest, as mine did, it is ultimately YOUR decision to stay or not stay in the relationship, to accept the bad along with the good. It is your therapist's job to help you best handle the parts of the relationship that are detrimental to your well-being.

That it took her a while to mention this is a good thing, she took her time gathering the information from you that led her to this conclusion, not something she jumped to quickly, and it is based on YOUR perseption of your relationship. Try to remember that her focus IS on your best interests, so if she is making that suggestion, it makes sense to explore that with her to determine if it has any merit, and then find out how best to accept and deal with that situation so that it minimizes any harm to you.

Doesn't necessarily mean she's a bad therapist. You don't mention if you've had a good relationship with her so far. If you are assuming she doesn't like your husband based on her actions it might be a good idea to flat out ask her so you're not assuming something incorrectly. It may not be him that she dislikes, but the affect some of his actions have on you.

It's worth it to get into it deeper with her. For your well-being.

Maybe you're mad at her because she hit a nerve.

Just ask her about it.