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Awhile ago I posted about my friend in need well I think he and I are no longer friends. We really havent been talking since I let him know that I liked him more then friends. With the few times we do talk its very strained on his end. Im getting told that all in my head and that my borderline symptoms are acting up (the good ol fear of abandonment issue) but I really think that this friendship is over. I just dont like putting myself out there and opening up to people to be let down yet again. I have 2 friends left and after that Im no longer putting myself out there. It just seems that I get abandoned plenty of times. And no I havent told him how I felt about the friendship going south. I thought it better to give him all the space he needs. I just dont know what to do. Im afraid to bring up the subject and remind him but I am saddened that it its most likely over, esp since I did something stupid to push him away. I really valued his friendship above all things sine I let him in really close, closer than I do most people, enough that I developed a bond that I normally dont do save another friend and My Aunt. I feel hurt that Im getting brushed off esp since Ive been depressed and he knows it. Im at whits end. I just had to get this off my chest. What should I do?
I can't give you advice, but I can relate.
And I am learning that no matter how 'bad' I am, I don't deserve to be treated badly.
Being left hanging out to dry---abandonment is abandonment is abandonment.
If you feel like things aren't going anywhere, I'd say just let him go.
i am doing the same thing with someone.
All you can do is put yourself out there so much, no sense in beating our heads till we're bloody.
i would rather be alone that deal with someone who leaves me hagning out to dry and then rationalizes it by saying, "It's just your borderline."
hang in there. :)
Billi
A few days later he is gone. lol.
You have to let these people go. I couldn't...
I got angry, and lonely. Then I send tons of hate/love messages, and try to contact. It only makes things worst.
He knows you care and wants to be friends.
So If they want to be friends they will contact you.
If not then let them go. =(