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Personality disorders form a class of mental disorders that are characterized by long-lasting rigid patterns of thought and behaviour. Personality disorders are seen by the American Psychiatric Association as an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it.

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Clingy

Rachelgoof
Rachelgoof
Of course I have dependant personality disorder and I'm too clingy with a friend....he is a guy...I'm married...please ...nothing going on but pure friendship...all my friends are guys becuz I can't get along with my peers...the guy I'm clingy with is across the world anyway...we skype and email becuz we are in same college course....I just count on him way too much,especially for help in this course...just overwhelmed that's all...Rachel
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm prob not the best to answer but ill try. Is he complaining? Or is ur husband?

If no one is troubled by it why r u? Enjoy the friendships.
Rachelgoof
Rachelgoof
Actually hubby likes him because he's younger and we have a lot in common...and he the friend isn't complaining...good point.....the friend is 25 my son is 17.....so its pure friendship
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with wowim. If your hubby and friend are ok with the relationship then why aren't you? If you don't like being clingy maybe you can talk about it with your friend and redefine your friendship. I don't think it's wrong, or clingy, to get help with school. I know I needed a buddy to help me with some of my courses. I'm sure he feels like you help him too.
Rachelgoof
Rachelgoof
I guess I just let this disorder get in the way....I'm very dependant...all good points I will talk to him :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
It sounds like you feel uncomfortable with being clingy. Is that because you worry he will get overwhelmed by you and stop being friends?

Alternatively, are you uncomfortable with being dependent on him, and want to be more psychologically independent?

Or is it just that you've heard people say that being clingy is bad, and you feel judged for being clingy?

A good friend of mine is super clingy and extremely dependent on me. I absolutely adore her and am always happy when she comes to me, but I know she worries about burdening me too much. I wish she wouldn't. Same situation, my GF is comfortable with the situation.
Rachelgoof
Rachelgoof
Reply number 5 seems to fit ...