i was only trying to support you guys.. i didn't say anything wrong and certainly was not trying to offend anyone so i am sorry that my post bothered people.
i don't know how it feels to have BPD, i'm not an expert on it but i do have a best friend who has it, and i love her and support her and try to give her hope every day. i've seen her struggle and at the same time try so hard and do better.. and i think giving her support and encouragement to push through and dont give up has helped her, so i was only offering the same support to anyone here who needs it.
like i said i am sorry and did not mean to hurt anyone's feelings.. my sincerest apologies.

not true at least in my case i never new i had bpd untill yesterday i got bad 10yrs ago wen i was 31 just been diagnosed after all this time its a nice thought though

Hey. I also suffer from bpd. I have heard that it can get a little easier into your 30s and 40s but it never really ends. What I really think is that it could get better over time if you work on getting better. There are so many things we do as borderlines that hold us back from getting better. The way we think and deal with our feelings can really throw us off sometimes and thats why we need to work on ourselves to be able to cope with that. Thinking irrationally and in black and white will get us nowhere. I think we can only get better if we want to and are willing to do whatever it takes to get to where we want to be in life. Another thing is to stop making excuses and blaming everything on our bpd. This is something I myself struggle with everyday. Its not easy,its not fun but I do it because I know its the right thing to do. I want to get better and its not just gonna be handed to me or to anyone else. Its something I'm going to have to work on everyday for the rest of my life and i've accepted that. I just wish more people would have that mentality. And another thing, kerryxlynne is a personal friend of mine and i'm tired of hearing some people say shes wrong in responding to posts about bpd because she doesn't have it herself. People on here should be grateful that someone who doesn't have bpd is willing to support and try to understand someone with it. Most people don't want to be friends or date us with us because of the way we think and deal with stuff. Most doctors won't even treat us because of that. So to see someone who doesn't have it and wants to support us with it shows someone who is sincere and has a big heart and we should respect that instead of jumping to that black and white way of thinking. All i'm doing is being honest from one borderline to another and if anyone thinks i'm in the wrong you can feel however you want to. Just remember that I do know what everyone is going through but i'm not as willing to excuse messed up behavior by blaming everything on my bpd and by think irrationally. So when it comes down to it everyone has to be more open minded when its comes to getting better and also should be more open minded when its comes to people wanting to help and support us getting better.

I hope kerryxlynne doesnt feel that the opinions expressed are representative of all of us.

I find the viewpoints interesting, and it can be helpful to have outside input. I do not think we should have exclusive thread rights, if someone who might be of help or wishes to share support we should accept this.

I do not want to be defined as BPD first and foremost. I am Dryade first and foremost, and yes, I have BPD. I will not curse gravity for letting me fall - I will still take the chance to stand up and walk. If someone lends me a hand, I do not have to do this alone. Thanks for your input, kerryxlynne.

thank you leigh and dryade. i really appreciate that.