Personality Disorders Support Group
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I have BPD, so I pretty much have absolutely no self esteem. All of my friendships fail b/c I make them my best friend and put them above everyone else, so when they don't do the same, like, if they don't make me there number 1 priority and consider me there BEST friend ever I freak out and never talk to them or look at them or have any type of communication with them ever again. Literally. I was best friends with this one girl for 5 years and then one day I told her that I never wanted to talk to her again...and over 2 years later, I still haven't.
So I have a crush on my best friend :/ But his best friends (in order) are kimmy then ariel then mariah, and then me. So if this were a normal situation I would stop being his friend, but it's not a normal situation b/c I like him...ugh.
and another thing is that he went REALLY far with this one slutty girl at my school who is SOOOO pretty and waaaay better than me at everything. And I chose abstinance before marriage b/c of my religion. GAH! I am soooo confused on how I should handle this...
please help. I need some serious advice here.
PEACE&LOVE
So I have a crush on my best friend :/ But his best friends (in order) are kimmy then ariel then mariah, and then me. So if this were a normal situation I would stop being his friend, but it's not a normal situation b/c I like him...ugh.
and another thing is that he went REALLY far with this one slutty girl at my school who is SOOOO pretty and waaaay better than me at everything. And I chose abstinance before marriage b/c of my religion. GAH! I am soooo confused on how I should handle this...
please help. I need some serious advice here.
PEACE&LOVE
Second, it's a good thing you haven't done the usual and dumped him impulsively as a friend. You obviously recognize that it's not health to just dump friends for no real reason.
Third, you might want to consider if he is really the one for you. If he is going really far with girls, he might have other interest and be more advanced than you would really want to get involved in.
I'ts kind of like once a guy or girl has experienced something exciting and new, they will more than likely want to continue that something exciting and new regardless of who they are with. I refer to it as a water switch. My water switch was turned on when I was a kid, so I couldn't turn it off later on.
Also, don't be so hard on that slutty girl. I realize she is not someone you will like, but I have found people are often slutty because of things that occured to them when they were younger and it was out of their control-or at least that is what happened to me.
****I would really consider the "he might not be the one factor". There are so many cool guys out there. My husband and I bumped into each other as kids and teen without noticing each other until much later. When you do get in a serious relationship, you are going to want someone who put you first, or actually second-God first. Female friendships and serious relationships are two different things. I know I am not the world's most whatever, but to my husband, I am. That's the love factor that kicks in.