I hope someone else answers your message too because all I can say is it can get better. Sometimes we have to just continue to try medications and revisit therapy to move forward. They have new medicines coming out all the time. Maybe you can talk medication over with your doctor and revisit DBT therapy.
I am taking another session of DBT. They offer three month sessions every three months were I live. I have taken two sessions and they help a lot, but I am excited about starting a new three month session next week.
I am also constantly adjusting my medication. The one time I felt the best, I had a negative reaction with one of the medicines and I was back to the drawing board.
Good luck!

Hey, I'm 21 have BPD, Major Depressive Disorder, insomnia, anxiety, and addiction problems. I can't really say a whole lot about DBT or talk therapy or anything because I haven't done any of that except for a few things when I was in the psych ward for two weeks. However, the thing that has recently helped me is becoming more spiritual/religious. I know one of my biggest problems from my BPD is feeling like no one cares about me or loves me and my self-worth is horrible and I feel like people only do hangout with me or act like they care about me for ulterior motives. This causes me overwhelming loneliness that makes me depressed and suicidal, but the thing that has helped is finding faith in God and praying. I feel like no one cares to listen to my problems or can understand me, but it has helped lately to pray to God and I am seeing little signs everyday that He shows me I'm cared about and to hang on. I don't know how you feel about religion or anything, but this might help? What are you spiraling out of control with if you don't mind me asking? Maybe I can help with other coping techniques if I knew more specifically how you were feeling or which disorder the problem is relating to most?

I honestly think that with the diagnosis of Borderline that it's really about a combination of environment, timing, meds, and therapy that make your life managabe and close to normal.

I personally have Borderline, Depression, and an Eating Disorder. I self-injury and have attempted too many times. I have a therapist and psychiatrist. I've used SO MANY different meds in the past two years. It's ridiculous.

Personally I'm going to get into art therapy which will feel more like a hobby than actual therapy. I'm tired of dealing with the regular doctor. It's getting old and has proven to be ineffective so to me it doesn't have much credibllity.