I wanted to let you all know that life back together as a family under one roof has been so amazing!  There is absolutely no wierdness at all among our children and everyone knows what part they play in helping to keep everyone safe at home.  Our safety plan has become so normal that I don't even have to remind them (most of the time) what to do in daily life!  My oldest son has been so humble and repentant and there is not one shred of rebellion in him or longing to do anything perverted.  Plus he has no access to anything pornography related so temptation is cut off altogether!  Which, by the way, he has shared that even during the time where he and his sister were inappropriate together, he had TRIED to stay away from her and out of situations of temptation because he didn't want to be doing what they were doing.  In the past year, he has seen pornography one time because of a pop-up screen on his grandma's tablet.  He has no desire to do so anymore especially in light of the reality of the abuse that he's gradually learning that his siblings went through at the hands of his ex-best-friend's monster family.  He's still digesting that fact...that these people who he loved and helped him get through one of the toughest years of his life with cancer, is really a social cancer in and of themselves.  He has a daily reminder in his sibling's anxiety episodes to rub that fact in.

My daughter's anxiety has not worsened and she's been able to work through any episodes she HAS had without freaking out any extra due to big brother living here now.  Also, my son's scans came back clean!  That means NO CANCER worries for 4 more months!  That also meant he was able to have the repairative surgery on his scrotum.  We've also had a walk-through of our home by CPS who not only approved our safety plan, but sung its praises, marking us off as having a safe environment for all 5 of our children being under one roof.  They have validated that all 5 of our children feel safe in their home.  Our case has not yet been closed but we're well on our way.  They said they won't be bothering our children or dropping by our home anymore.  (Remember that CPS was called by my odest son's therapist because of two scenarios of possible sexual abuse that I shared with him about my oldest son's childhood.  One, my son doesn't remember, and the other was between him and his aunt who were the same age, 8, and he only remembers it as childhood curiosity.)

So, there is HOPE!  Reunification is not some illusive thing that is never attainable.  I'll be it, with the social pressures from the various institutes it SEEMS unatainable but legally there is nothing stopping us from bringing our child home to become a unified family especially now that all of our victimized children are fine with it.  My daughter's daily actions and reactions show a feeling of normal around her brother.  Nothing amiss to make us believe that the story they told of it being a mutual molestation is not true.  No minute flinches or strange reactions but simply a healthy personal bubble space kept.  There is no ANYTHING that would lead us to believe that ANYTHING would ever happen again and yet trust must be earned and safety plans will be followed because their possible sin would be on our heads as the parents who chose to have them live under one roof.  We take our job as parents very seriously and sleep apart simply so that we can all sleep under one roof.  (This will continue until we have all our rooms set up which CPS set us back in our schedule to do so because we didn't have the time to do it before my son had surgery.)  Forgiveness is real.  Healing is real.  Hope is real.  Reunification is real.  

...I'm happy to be that one lonely voice that says a perpetrator can change when they are a child.  Not every molestation is black and white nor is every outcome the same.  Each relationship has to be evaulated on its own merit and decisions made keeping those facts in mind.  God just so happened to have our family in His hands during this whole process so that we COULD be one family again.  There are scenarios where a victim should never live with their perpetrator ever again...monster boy's family, for instance!  ;)

(I'm sure there's many of you who disagree but I don't care because this is OUR reality and it has worked fine for us.  I'm sorry if I offend you in sharing our truth but the facts speak for themselves: police case closed (which we personally reported), original CPS case closed (which we personally reported), most of our therapists singing our praises and saying that our son is safe to live in the home, all of our children enjoying each other again in sincerity.  This is reunification and the very reason why this term was invented...for families like ours.)