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aGREE AGREE AGREE. i WISH i READ THIS EARLIER AS i HAVE BEEN RANTING ON AND ON AND ON ABOUT THIS.

Anyone from UK?

I feel more should be taught in Schools.
I know its a taboo subject, all you have to do is look on statistics to see how common it is. I am sick of not being able to talk about it because noone likes to hear about it. Like its us at fault for being molested. Its real, it happens and people cant keep burying there head in the sands about it.

Also at School you learn how to put condoms on bananas - when do you get taught to actually be able to say no.

When I went to School I was taught not to talk to strangers. In actual fact strangers can help. They never told me not to touch my grandfathers penis, (SORRY) but do you nkow what I mean. xxx

Yes its about time they start cleaning up this world,but im not depending on the government to do that job . But people, one thing, The Governmant does not care!! i dont know about everyone else but i believe other people had thoughts like ours here in this discussion, and tried to do somthing about it , but nothing has been done, all they the gove government wants is money, Im not saying Im not with you guys on this topic cuz ha if it was that easy that would be awsome. there are so many things the government kept from us and is still keeping (TOP SECRET) as some people call it, they are liers . This world is condemed . Not to offend anyone . But the only one person we all need to trust and love Is jesus christ. Jesus is coming to take the godly and leave the ungodly, if people believe it or not, its true. Anyone can ignore this message as well but when the time comes where nonrepenters are left behind it will not be anyones fault but the siprit u let control your life people, And for the Rappers,and molesters out there, oh they will get theres, i know its hard to put it completely in Gods hands people, but take a second and think, these people who do these things to our children or controled be demons ,there are many kinds of demons out there people, almost everyone in this wolrd are ignorant of the truth and whats really going on out here in this world. we ARE in a fight...called a " SPIRITUAL WARFARE" between good and evil , this is hard to hear but its not the person in flesh who done those terrible things , its the demons that have a strong hold on there lives. Yes everyone sins but thats why God gave all of us repentence (ask for forgiveness) . those rappers and molesters are being dealt with, no matter what. i just recently found out my child was molested as well , oh i wanted to kill the person, but i cant. God has a plan for all of us, a good plan too, if we just bellieve in him and ask him into our hearts , u will see the wonders of his Glory. i have seen miracles with my own eyes, after prayer and asking Jesus for help . one time i asked him for help ... right after i asked.., the answer was right in front of my face and i would have never known had i not prayed and asked Jesus. people we can only pray for these predators out there ,and never seek revenge , because revenge is the work of the devil. the devil comes to STEAL, KILL, AND DESTROY and he will find the weakess person to enter, like those predators and many others . put it like this : say we have blinking signs over all of our heads that says vacancy , the signs the say vacancy are those who dont have christ in there hearts and is open for demons to enter and dwell, now the signs the says no vacancy are those who have christ in there hearts ,and then we can tell the devil "NO VACANCY ,NO VACANCY". the devil cannot dwell were he is not welcome, The meaning of this example is, if we drive to a hotel and its say no vacancy, will we stop? NO. just as well as the devil cannot dwell were he is not welcomed. Now if we seen a hotel the said vacancy, Arent we quick to stop and go inside? as well as the devil ,he sees a weak soul,(depression,anxiety, self conscious,pornography, adolatry, fear,and etc etc etc) basically any wrongfull thing makes room for the devil to come in, although if your feeling these ways or doing these things , the demon has already planted it self in u, but there is a way out by having even just a mustard seed of faith and believeing in Jesus, becuz we are in the image of Jesus, we can do all things through christ who gives us strength. any ways what im saying is all we can do is forgive these people that hurt us, and pray to God to handle it and he WILL.

cps and the detective on the case both treated me like I was at fault. I'm not allowed to have copies of the cases either. I asked why after many many phone calls and the only thing that the records clerk could speculate it was because the perpetrator is not allowed to have the records. I'm the mother of the victim. My lawyer no longer returns my calls. I have some bits and pieces of reports that the actual molester brought to court with him. I'm bipolar and the perpetrator is my my ex boyfriend who is 16 years my senior. So his word is gold. My requests for a lie detector test were also ignored. Everything is dropped. All I can do is try for no parenting time. My 5 year old calls him a monster. There are no resources here at all. I doubt I can count on my lawyer at this point. he told me right off the bat he organized a coalition for dads wrongfully accused of sex abuse. well what about when it's real? is that never an option? If there's anything that can be done, I will do it.

Here is an update- I have contacted some great people who are willing to help and keep it "legal" (that word pisses me off because the legal system does not work) anyways I will post another update with in a couple of days, I will write the letter and post it to my journal for every one. I would love for each of you to add on to it and make this blow some one's mind.......{{{HUGS}}} and Prayers to all <3

YES! I have been doing some serious research on why and how the system is broken. I feel like I didn't just go through everything, win the safety of my daughter, to abandon other mothers, children, and others to a completely fucked up system.

The issues are complex--which is part of the problem. I have been thinking of having a meeting with my local victim advocacy group and see if can begin something for people who have been sexually assaulted. The other thought, is to hook up with my local rape crisis center and see what they can do. I don't think I should waste my time reinventing the wheel when these two groups are already organized and understand the legislative process. 2 years ago I met with a local Rep and Senator and they gave me all sorts of sweet words of trying to help and then . . . nothing.

THE major problem with any sex crimes is proof . . . or lack thereof. Our criminal justice system is based on proof beyond a reasonable doubt. The problem with sex crimes within a custodial issue is that family court is NOT based on the best interests of the child. Family court's main focus is on equity between parents. Sometimes, judges are forced BY LAW to make sure that parenting is a 50 50 deal in the case of divorce. I have no idea how to rectify this situation, but surely, SURELY we are not the only ones saying "something is really wrong here."

I HAVE KNOWN ABUSE, AND OTHERS THAT WERE ABUSE AS CHILDREN, UNFORTUNATELY IT IS ALWAYS A FAMILY MEMBER ,AND HARD TO PUNISH,YES YOU HAVE TO FIGHT ,BUT THERE IS SO MUCH EVIL GOING ON, A LOT OF PEOPLE ARE INVOLVED IN CHILD ABUSE, IN HIGH PLACES, IT GOES ON AT ALL LEVELS, HOW WILL THEY HELP WHEN THEY THEMSELVES ARE ABUSERS, THE AIM SHOULD BE TO HAVE MORE POWER IN PROTECTING YOUR OWN CHILDREN, UNFORTUNATELY THE LAW LACKS SUCH AUTHORITY, SO FIGHT TO GET LAWS THAT PROTECT A CHILD FROM THE ABUSE OF A PARENT AND THE REMOVAL FROM SUCH PERVERT, RIGHT NOW THE SEXUAL ABUSE OF CHILDREN IS TERRIBLE, NURSERY AND SCHOOLS HAVE BECAME A TARGET, I READ THAT A NUN WAS ABUSING CHILDRENS IN A NURSERY IN ITALY, AND SHE WAS HIDYNG IN THE VATICAN, ONLY THE LAWYER WAS REPRESENTING HER IN COURT, SHE WAS STICKING THINGS IN THE CHILDREN, HOW WICKED AND EVIL ..THE POINT IS THAT THERE ARE SEXUAL ACT WHICH LEAVE NO EVIDENCE, STILL THE CHILD IS ABUSED ,LIKE THE CASE OF ORAL SEX, WHICH WAS FOUND RECENTLY IN A NURSERY, THE BEAST HAS BEEN JAILED INDEFINITELY, HE WORKED IN A NURSERY, THE OTHER STUFF HAD SPOKEN ABOUT HIS BEHAVIOUR AND NOTHING WAS DONE, THAN HE ABUSED MORE...MY PRAYERS ARE WITH ALL, MUCH LOVE LUCY..

I'm all in, I'm trying with all that I am to keep my girls safe. I went to the local womens shelter at first for help. They had someone help me write up an order of protection request. She focused it on the sexual abuse and not the fear and vilent past events. Not only did I lose the order of pertection, but try getting anyone one to believe you after you tell them a judge wouldn't even grant an OFP. Then I scheduled a police stand-by for him to get his things from the garage. He showed up with 20 people and a huge U-haul. The police officer was 30 minutes late. He then with the officer standing there ripped cabinets right off the wall. He completely gutted my garage. Then Him and his mob proceded to try and get into my house. I was able after an hour ina half of this to get he officer to end the stand-by and make them leave. When I asked the officer about my damaged property he said I need to take it to small clams court.

I'm all in, I'm trying with all that I am to keep my girls safe. I went to the local womens shelter at first for help. They had someone help me write up an order of protection request. She focused it on the sexual abuse and not the fear and vilent past events. Not only did I lose the order of pertection, but try getting anyone one to believe you after you tell them a judge wouldn't even grant an OFP. Then I scheduled a police stand-by for him to get his things from the garage. He showed up with 20 people and a huge U-haul. The police officer was 30 minutes late. He then with the officer standing there ripped cabinets right off the wall. He completely gutted my garage. Then Him and his mob proceded to try and get into my house. I was able after an hour ina half of this to get he officer to end the stand-by and make them leave. When I asked the officer about my damaged property he said I need to take it to small clams court.

I have thought about working towards an ends to this but I don't know what kind of laws could have been enacted prior to my child's abuse. I don't know what awareness I should have had. The pedophile that hurt my child acted innocent and preyed upon 2-5 year olds. :*(

MaciB: It may not prevent abuse, but at least there could be a modicum of justice for those who have been abused once it is brought to the notice of the system. As terrible as it sounds, it is better for children to be abused by a friend/neighbor/non-family person b/c at least you can leave the situation and keep your child safe once you know. But in the situation where it is the parent who abuses, the abuser/perp STILL has parental rights and ACCESS to his victims. It still blows my mind, but that is how it works.

I AM SO READY! I'VE BEEN FIGHTING SO HARD AND GETTING NO WHERE!!!!!!!!! I FEEL SO ALONE. I WISH I HAD THE SUPPORT TO HELP ME THROUGH BUT ITS LIKE BEING ALL ALONE.