Hello,

To hopefully help you feel a little better there are many others out there just like you. And boys seem to be diagnosed more with ADHD as well as they can also take it to the extreme with the things that they do. I have three sons and three step children and my middle son is ADHD. It was apparent from birth. The biggest advice I can give you because there is not a lot of understanding about ADHD is to have patience. Understand that he has ADHD and this is what happens when someone cannot control there impulses and focus. Once you have accepted it this may take some of the stress off of you and you may be more patient with him. Have you considered medication for him? The only reason I say this is because I decided to not give my son medication and I just dealt with the behaviors (the schools will not deal with it though) and as he entered middle school and high school the social anxiety began and the depression which intensifies the situation even more. I have dealt with my son having depression and suicidal ideation every since. Where medication may have helped these symptoms. He is 21 years old know and out of all of my children I have to watch over him the most because at any minute the depression and suicidal thoughts may come back. He is on medication but I cannot help but to wonder if all of this could have been avoided a long time ago by getting him help as a child.

I hope any of this helps,
Tietjen

oh my goodness that must be really hard for you to live with wondering what if he does? I suppose in that instance you were doing the right thing for your son not wanting the medication. its the not wanting them doped up/zombiefied etc but at the same time wanting the best for them so youre in a catch 22 situation. I was thinking about not putting my son on the medication up until recently when his behaviour took a serious turn and im not even sure what it was that made it go. it was like a switch, I mean he was impulsive etc before hand but now all I can say is "wow" hes attacking adults viciously and for no reason and laughing about it as he does it. so now im more inclined to take the medication for him otherwise I can see when his 14/15 him getting arrested on a regular basis and that's not what I want for him. I hope things work out for your son

My daughter with ADHD is on Metadate extended release and it has helped her tremendously. There's another one called Vivanz (not sure the spelling) that is used often but it made my daughter too tired. I have another daughter that didn't do well those and she is on Risperdone and has behavioral therapy. I think you need some behavioral therapy along with meds to help truly teach them to be calm. There are some over the counter supplements I give my girls at bedtime too if they can't calm down called Hylands Calm Forte. Oh and their doctor uses Guanfuicen (sorry can't remember the spelling) for a lot for kids with ADHD. The best of luck.

I didn't know they did behavioural therapy thank you for that piece of information.

Hello,

Thanks for the kind words about my son. It is a constant battle. I hope things work out for you and your son as well. If you need people to talk to you know where to go we have all been there. Hang in there.

Tietjen

Hello, thank you im glad I have people I can talk to now that are going through the same or very similar to me.