Parents of Children with ADHD Support Group
This community is designed as an open forum where the parents and guardians of children with ADHD (Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder) can give and receive support, as well as discuss ideas, techniques, concerns, surprises, and challenges they may face with their children.
I have an almost 12 year old daughter with ADHD and some aspects of SPD. We are having problems with making sure she is clean after a BM. She seems to be in too much of a hurry and they aren't just little messes either. She also does not clean up and change on her own unless I happen to smell it. This has happened 3 times this week alone. I have talked to her about being clean and healthy and what will happen when puberty hits but it seems to just go in one ear and out the other. I've talked to her counselor but he just says to make sure she is clean daily. We've tried punishments but they don't seem to work and the counselor said it may make things worse. We've also tried not punishing her and just talking to her about it. Has anyone else gone through this at this age?
However, I wonder if you have a different issue.. I would try a positive & proactive approach, as one that I was told about by someone who's younger child refused to bm train, because he couldn't stop playing long enough to use the toilet. Let her pick out something that she likes, reaally likes, and put it somewhere she can see (or just put a picture of it in front of the toilet) and only let her use it when she "stays clean". Its an instant, daily reward for doing what she's supposed to, and don't forget to compliment her when she remembers. Hope this helps.