Every child is different just as every adult is. For me, I need at least a good 7 hours of solid sleep. What time are you putting her down for bed? Also, does she have a routine...say, do you have snack, bath time, then storytime with cuddling in her bed to help her body relax from playing or is she just put down to go to sleep? I know sometimes things on paper seem harsh, but I'm trying to figure out how she's going to bed and if she's truly that tired yet.

My 2 yr old granddaughter has almost stopped taking naps, but when she does, we try to limit it to maybe 30 min. When she goes to bed at night, she sleep ALL night...moving around, but in a solid sleep for at least for about 10 more hours. Some kids just require less.

Also, is she teething? Sometimes lying down then causes the blood to rush to the head and the teething becomes more noticable. She may also be going through separation anxiety and doesn't want to be away from you and she's DEFINITELY hitting the stage (at least by next month) for the terrible two's, but it really begins before two. It's really not so terrible as it's just that time when they learn to assert themselves and it is "Me do it" as they sooo want to exercise their independence. They get frustrated soo easily. I tried to teach mine to express their feelings and ask if they were frustrated so they could articulate how they felt. They want to do it on their own and maybe throwing that pacci away is her way of rejecting whatever you are suggesting as it seems they do that with EVERYTHING you suggest at this point.

Hang in there. This too, shall pass. :-)

I don't think the two things are necessarily related. My daughter used to go down to bed sooo easy and now she fights it tooth and nail, too. I think it might be their age (mine's now 20 months). I wouldn't go back now that you've taken it away (sounds like she doesn't want it, anyway). Maybe she needs an addition/revision to her bedtime routine or something?

I dont have much advice , but to me it seems she dont even want the soother. But i also dont know why she would be so upset. My son never cared about soothers. I do remember when he was just under 2 and a half, and he started fighting with us at bedtime.. He didnt care to go up to his room(he was in a toddler bed) but he didnt want us to leave(i mean one of us could but not both) he would slam the door behide us to try to keep us in with him. He didnt care if we played with him, he just wanted us there. INFACT he would try to lay us down in his bed for us to go to sleep. It was very adorable lol. But at the same time this could go on for hours, he wouldnt even lay in bed with us, wanted to play. When me or my husband tried to leave after 10-15 mins he would flip out, throw his things, kick and scream, i felt terrible. I dont know why he was like that(he went to bed well before this). ANyway we just had to let him cry it out. He would stop in 15-20 mins, but when he did cry he was soo upset, i just wanted to cuddle him. Anyway he got over it with in 2-3 weeks. He still plays in his room for about an hour before bed, but will go to sleep well, and sleep a good 10-12 hours. My daughter on the other hand loves her soother. She is 21 months old. I have been able to get it off of her during the day, infact she does not even care. But as soon as nap time comes or bedtime, she starts looking all over her room for it, and will cry if you try to leave without giving it to her. She knows we have it. For now she uses one at nap/bedtime. I hope to have her off them soon.
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Her bedtime routine is sort of an ever changing thing. Usually at 7pm we clean up all the toys in the house. Then for the next half hour she is allowed to sit nicely and play. At 7:30 we brush teeth, then we sit on the couch and snuggle, or read, or watch some animal channel. Then at 8 it is off to bed. Occasionally we stretch 8 to 8:30 depending on how she is. And she can be so exhausted she is passing out on the couch, but the second we move the dramatics begin. Marlow also sleeps until 9 in the morning every day, then just sits in her crib and plays until 10. She gets angry if I try and take her out before she has had time to wake herself up and snuggle with her stuffed big bird.

I have nowhere in her room to sit with her and calm her, and she is still in a crib, so I stand in her room and rock and hum her for about ten minutes. Then as I try and lay her down she likes to latch onto my hair.

She is constantly teething. She only has 7 teeth, and the last month she has gotten 5 of those.

And since I got a job and when I start work is right in the middle of her old naptime, and she will not nap at the babysitters, the days I work she does not nap. Maybe fifteen minutes in the car on the way to the sitters. But I don't notice her getting like this only on the days without naps.

Tonight she lay in her crib and yelled 'mama baaaad, mama nooooo' and it was so hard not to run to her! We are talking about moving her to a toddler bed soon, as she CAN escape her crib, she just doesn't...but there is no way she can be in a toddler bed with the freedom to get up while this is happening.

I honestly do not think its from the paci...both of mine fight sleep, my ds just turned 1 and before he was a great sleeper! We could put him on a pillow with his bottle and he would be out within 5 minutes...now we have to hold him and make him go to sleep. My dd has always been this way. I think they are getting older, more mobile, learning all sorts of new stuff and are have lots of fun so they do not want to sleep and miss out on anything. Sleep training is fast approaching!

Ok, it's getting worse!

I have lengthened her bedtime by half an hour, in that half an hour we sit on the couch and snuggle and watch out of the box. Then we go to her room, where I rock her and sing or hum, give her kisses and let her know how much I love her. We do this for around twenty minutes. She can start to doze off in that time. But as soon as I put her in her crib she is screaming like a banshee!

She is also starting to wake up in the middle of the night and scream like that. But taking her to bed with us isn't an option. I don't agree with it, but we have tried it, and she will not go back to sleep with us. She tosses and turns and kicks and talks for hours. So the only option when she wakes up it seems is to let her scream herself back to sleep.

And I do mean scream. All she does now is screech, with the occasional sob. It's getting really hard for me to handle.