I'm probably really bad at this too, But, if I were trying to get my son to be more independent about remembering chores I'd probably make a schedule of them for him and teach him how to use it - he does ok with checklists.

Does your daughter use a calendar (monthly, weekly, or daily) to remember other tasks - like appointments or going to school? If she does, could she use the same thing for her chores? Or, if she's too young for that yet, is she too old for a checklist on the wall/fridge/etc.?

Best Wishes.

I think that once they turn 13 their brains turn to mush. My 14yo son forgets things all the time. We have started to do a bit of tough love. I will ask once and only once for something to get done. Like for him to bring up his laundry. If it is not brought up I do not do his laundry and he is stuck wearing dirty clothes or he has to wash his own. And there is no.....yeah in a bit, when I ask for something to get done it is immediate. Good luck!!

I agree with the "mush" diagnosis above! Haha! So, for the year he turned 13, I did lists and reminders. Based on some research about allowance, I also reduce the money (and/or time allowed on video games) if it isn't done. Now that he is 14, he knows the drill. I also ask him periodically to help watch his younger brothers, and because he NEVER argues or complains about that, I make sure to make a VERY big deal out of how helpful he is so that he has a sense of pride associated with that. Now I hear HIM telling his brothers, "Make sure you pee IN the potty so I don't have to clean this off the floor!" His job is to clean that bathroom, so he cares more!

Hi; I have difficulty with my son and daughter in this area as well. I tried to really focus on rewarding them when they completed their responsibilities around the house. My son responded in a pretty positive way. My daughter not as much. I didn't want to punish her so I stressed that what she was missing out on from receiving in this case the money for her chores. It worked a little. Still not thrilled and looking for another idea. Let me know if anyone has some ideas.

I have a 17 yr old son who was diagnosed with Epilepsy three years ago. He has been on medication since and still does not want to do anything on his own. It is as if I have to pay him for everything, which is hard to do since I am a single mom. It is tough getting them to do anything.

Personally, you give her some chores, if you doesn't do it, give her a warning and then mild punishments increasing in severity. I am not a big fan of nagging and complaining.