Parenting Teenagers (12-18) Support Group
This community is focused on the joys, challenges and concerns faced by parents of teenagers (12 to 18 year olds). The major areas of child development include: physical development, perception and sensory development, communication and language development, cognitive development, emotional development and social development.
My 16 year old son is back home after 4 weeks with his father. He punched me and choked his sister. He had a fit and tore up my apt. all over nothing. I asked him to wash the dishes 3hours prior. He shoulder bump me and then pushed and hooked me in the jaw. He went crazy! I call the cops and they came to get him but nothing more happen. I had to come and get him and I took him to his father apt. His father and I spoke about letting him stay with him way before this happen, but my ex feels that the family is already broken up. Whatever! He just don't to deal with a teenager.
The only reason he's back home is because of my ex-husband roomate, which is my cousin. Go figure! And now that's he back I don't want to be there. We don't talk and he looks at me like he's crazy. Yes we said that this and that will change but we did that before. I DON'T WANT HIM THERE! He's 16 and 6'3" and he thinks that he rules the world. He smokes/d weed and he's having sex. And both od these things I can't control. He does have a job and that seem like that's all he cares about!
I feel like a prioner in my own home.
The only reason he's back home is because of my ex-husband roomate, which is my cousin. Go figure! And now that's he back I don't want to be there. We don't talk and he looks at me like he's crazy. Yes we said that this and that will change but we did that before. I DON'T WANT HIM THERE! He's 16 and 6'3" and he thinks that he rules the world. He smokes/d weed and he's having sex. And both od these things I can't control. He does have a job and that seem like that's all he cares about!
I feel like a prioner in my own home.
But he sounds pretty much like my daughter. I mean the same attitude. She would never hit me or hurt me. But there is one rule of my house, no alcohol and drugs allowed in my home. I started taking claim to my home. Because I pay the bills and I work and I am the mother she is the child. If you pray...Pray for him to realize how much disrespect he has for you. Don't be afraid of him. You are a survivor. I don't know what past you have, but I am guessing there was abuse somewhere in your past. For him to act out like he is.
My daughter was sexually abused. She won't allow anyone to hurt her.But she will hurt you first in order to protect her self. But at the same time she is self destructive. She hasn't learned how to live as a survivor. She still lives in victimization. She deals with her problems with alcohol and sex. She never let go of the man she shacked up with. He still in the picture, and he is with another girl in the same town. She has a lot to learn. I hope she finds herself on this journey.
We never dream our babies will act out like this. Because when they are babies they are sweet and innocent. Then somewhere along the line there behaviour is learned. When a person is hurting who do they hurt? The people who they love the most. He loves you, he feels safe hurting you because he knows you won't turn him away. Somehow you have to make him talk about what is making him angry. Show him how to talk about his problems. Get him some help. again I don't know your situation. I am not a therapist but I am going through a similar situation. I will be praying for you and your daughter and your safety.