I am tired of yelling at my kids and barking orders. I don't want to be this kind of mom! I yell and lecture. Then, I get sarcastic. Sometimes I am just plain mean to them and I end up feeling realy badly afterward. I also have to constantly tell them to get things done. I have to yell at them to get their attention it seems.I am too busy telling them what to do and being stressed out about everything that I feel needs to get done.

I school them at home and it was too much work for them to do school and chores. They ended up doing nothing but school and cleaning up, and I felt like I wanted them to have some free time everyday. So, I decided to just get all the housework done myself. My husband works long hours, so he isn't able to help much. Now my kids just take longer to do their work and complain that I yell at them all the time. Every time I leave the room, they start playing or drawing on their worksheets. So, I can't really get my housework done because I have to sit right next to them all day and make sure their work is getting done. Then I get angry that my house is always messy.

I'm not sure I know how to be nice to them anymore. I don't even know what to say to them. I just tell them what to do all day. What am I supposed to do or say to them?