Parenting Big Kids (5-8) Support Group
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My friends daughter is almost 10 years old and still has a nuk, what should he do. I think that he is scared to even try to give it up. I don't think that it would have been, but he is a divorced single dad. So I can't emagine how hard that is, but a nuk a 9-10, man that is really sad. What should he do?????????
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I have 3 kids. 24. 17. 15. My 17 yr old has become super defiant. He and his 15 yr old sister have on their own decision stopped going to their dads because he and his household is so toxic.My 15 yr old and myself feel like we have to tip toe around my son who is 17. And physically towers over us and out weighs us. He has become emotionally abusive and on the verge of becoming physically...
Part of me wants to laugh, that is way too old. I would just grab it and throw it out the window going down the highway. The child should be old enough to understand! The other part of me wants to shake the parent. He needs to learn how to say NO. This is an extreme example of the kid getting his way ...wayyy tooo long.
I think what he should do depends on why his daughter still has the NUK (pacifier). Is his daughter cognitively and developmentally normal or does she have developmental or other issues?
If his daughter is normal then he could sit down and talk to her about how she has grown up (maybe giving lots of examples) and doesn't need it anymore. But I think it is probably important to think about what function the NUK serves for his daughter. If he takes it away will she just start thumb-sucking to replace it? (My point is less about thumb sucking and more a consideration that the method he uses to get her to stop using it should be one that works, but does not just create another problem in the process).
If his daughter needs a temporary replacement behavior (I know teachers everywhere will cringe) but he could try allowing her to chew sugarless gum (if there are no other reasons not to chew gum).
Does she use it everywhere? How do the other kids around her react? I can't imagine a "normal" child liking the type of reaction I suspect they would get from other kids her age.
If his daughter is not cognitively or developmentally normal then what he should do should take any disability into account - but there will still usually be ways to shape this behavior into somethin more acceptable.
To be honest though, I see this as more of an issue with developmental (cognitive or emotional) issues and possibly social/emotional issues. It is not a safety issue, so if she has other severe problems that are safety issues then maybe this hasn't seemed like a priority.
Anyway, I hope youi / he find an answer that will work for all of you.