Panic Attacks Support Group

A panic attack is a period of intense fear or discomfort, typically with an abrupt onset and usually lasting no more than thirty minutes. Symptoms include trembling, shortness of breath, heart palpitations, sweating, nausea, dizziness, hyperventilation, and sensations of choking or smothering. Panic attacks can be very sudden, appear to be unprovoked, and are often...

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New to Group, have Severe Panic Disorder/Agoraphob

Joymoon
Joymoon
I just found this group on daily strength and hope it helps me as much as the estranged parents group.
I have been living alone for 9 years as my daughter went to live with my ex, her dad when she was 15. My son is in the process of sueing me for back child support and some trust fund he believes his father has for him. I have been seeing a cognitive behavioral therapist for over 7 almost 8 years. About a month ago he started acting strange and told me that he wanted me to get more help in my county so he made me sign release papers. I explained that I could only get what I have and had exhausted every other way to get help for me. Well, he wants me to go to a mental helath facility over 45 miles away as he feels he cannot help me and that I need more help than he can give me. This was just written to me in a email. Prior to that it was all because of me not having the right insurance. That he had to figure out this new obamacare and if he could take my medicare with spend down. This was all a lie. I refuse to go for help in this mental facility as they would recommend me moving closer to the place, getting rid of my dog and cat and home which I house 3 tenants in on my property. I am struggling with bills but paying them for now. I know the therapist was upset wtih me when I went to the office on our scheduled appt and he was not there. I did not know why and called and got a tape maching. When I got home he had called the house number, not my cell and told me he was ill. The next week was when he started all this. He said I heard your panic. Well, what did he think I was going there for? I have sevre abandonment issues stemming from my mother all the way up to 3 husbands and now my 2 children.
I woke up this morning feeling defeated like now what? I have no one to speak with as I live in the wilderness of this NorthEast state and the closest big city is 45 miles away. I have a 15 year old car and cannot get there alone. I have one so-called friend who sits in the car with me while I drive which is very hard for me to do and drains me of energy as he doesnt drive and I only have me to rely on. Someone please help me here. I feel like I am going nuts with no support. I have a narc PTSD ex husband nearby but he is useless to me. My daughter lives an hour away but I have not seen her in 9 years, she is 23. She blames me for everything wrong with her life. I was mommy dearest..
Someone please help me.
Joymoon
Joymoon
I also have a doberman and a cat. I cannot go into low income housing with them and would lose them. I really dislike people as they have always hurt me and left me. I do not understand what I am doing wrong. The panic attacks come out of nowhere and they are severe. I have to take lots of xanax and a klonopin when it happens. This wonderful "head" problem is now affecting me physically. I have fibromyalgia, osteoporosis etc. There are no other therapists to go to here, all are booked for at least a month. I must keep my spend down and have already made an appt with a chiropractor to keep it. But this is not what I need, why oh why is this therapist doing this to me? I did tell him that he has anger management issues himself when he yelled at me and glared and pointed a finger at me saying This is why all people hate you. Most unprofessional. I had just said people do not realize I work like a nut all day and night to sell on line and think I just push buttons on a computer at home and same goes with you(meaning him) that he just sits here and listens and does nothing. To be honest, there has been no progress with my phobia or panic in all the years I have been with him but that is to be expected since I have had panic disorder and agoraphobia since I was 16 when my mother blamed me for my fathers fatal heart attack.
harry3333
harry3333
panic attacks , also
called anxiety attacks are a false triggering of the fight or flight response,
google fight or flight response for all the possible effects of it. panic
attacks often are inherited. they cant harm anyone so should not be feared. when
feeling stressed or panicky simply relax and breathe deep and slow. dont tense
up or fight back against it. do disolve any mid range valium type pill under
tongue for fastest help, google sublingually. agoraphobia is avoiding or
fearing places or situations likely to cause a panic attack. Ive found that the
best advice in overcoming both is in cheap self help books from internet
bookstores, order a few to be delivered to you by mail. therapists, especially
psychiatrists often give little advice and consider the panic attacks as
unimportant. they waste time and are often expensive, also their advice is hard
to remember as most patients are very nervous. valium type meds are still
the best for reducing or stopping a panic attack, if taken to hospital, the
usual treatment is an injection of valium. antidepressant meds help some a lot
but sufferers can have severe early side effects so start at much less than the
min dose range and slowly work dose up, google the antidepressant dose range for
guidance. valium reduces early side effects. antidepressants take from 2 to 6
weeks to start working and occasionally never help. the prozac or SSRI type are
popular but other types also help and so can be tried. older sedating
antihistamines calm some. valium type must be used sensibly but its been my long
experience that few sufferers have addictive type personalitys,t he main problem
being to get them to take a large enough dose rather than stopping them from
taking too high a dose the fight or flight response can become a strong
addiction, people activate it with dangerous sports, downhill skiing, bungee
jumping, parachute jumping, etc so some panic attack sufferers refuse to make
any attempt to recover or to take helpful meds. panic attack and agoraphobia
sufferers dont usually lead very stressfull lives. they become expert at seeming
calm and relaxed whan actually panicky I had panic attacks and severe
agoraphobia for 20 years before diagnosing myself and am now completely recovered
Joymoon
Joymoon
I thank you Harry but I know all of this. I was one of the first patients in the phobia clinic at Long Island Jewish Hospital with Carole Linderman. I could not take Tofrenil. I just am so alone and scared as I am getting older and cannot do what I used to do. I know I have to sell my house as it is too much for me to keep up but nothing is selling in my area yet and I have to stick it out or go into low income housing in a bad neighborhood 45 miles away. I have no family as my kids hate me and call me a narcissist. I hate living in this cold area with no friends and no one cares if I live or die. I think they would pee on my grave. I cannot go further than 11 miles from home and that is getting harder with the old unreliable car. I do take Xanax and Klonopin when needed and do put it under my tongue. I have had this since I was 16, now almost 66. I need a companion and there is no one around except people that use me as they know about my condition. I guess I will have to go without therapy again as my therapist fired me after 7 years claiming I need more help than he can give me. I just need a loving companion that understands my problem and how it affects my personality.
Pampasgrass
Pampasgrass
It is not always easy to simply get people out of your life that abuse you, especially your children. But if children turn to abusers we are wise to avoid them, not to let them hurt us more.

I revel in the fact that I understand the motivations of people in general, and in general they just do not have good motivations. They will seek others out for money, they will seek them out to be a sounding off board, they seek others out so they can let their aggression out on them, the list goes on and on.
I am just not afraid anymore to think this way: Ok, here is Mr or Mrs Nice on the outside, if they become my friend what will happen? Well, I will tell you what will normally happen: you notice that they only wanted to get close to you because they need small favors from you, like to take all of your money, all of your physical and mental strength. I watch many people and their motives are harrowing.

I usually do not need to be reassured by others so that is a plus and no one can tell me that I need them when the opposite is true.
Joymoon
Joymoon
You are correct, people use me as they know I have no one to defend me. I stay in the house away from people because I never can tell who wants what from me. I have nothing to give anymore. My kids took my spirit away, final nail in the coffin. I just hope I can continue to sell on line and keep my house till I declutter it and find another that is affordable. I really do not want to live in this area but it is familiar to me and its all I know. I dispise people at this point in my life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Decluttering will help you a lot. Start with one room at a time. I can understand why you have panic. For now you should distance yourself and find local suport group. Also take up a hobby you enjoy
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