Panic Attacks Support Group

A panic attack is a period of intense fear or discomfort, typically with an abrupt onset and usually lasting no more than thirty minutes. Symptoms include trembling, shortness of breath, heart palpitations, sweating, nausea, dizziness, hyperventilation, and sensations of choking or smothering. Panic attacks can be very sudden, appear to be unprovoked, and are often...

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Feeling so dumb :(

blixxa
blixxa
I am feeling so horrible. I have been having panic attacks in the middle of the night, middle of the day, I sat crying at work and I feel dumb. I am so stressed out. I am in the process of buying a house. As much as everyone would say CONGRATS! I feel like an ass. My landlord and I have become amazing friends over the past year. Shes been so great, just great to talk to if either of us feel down.

I told her we were finally able to qualify for a mortgage (even though it was not much) and she said well thats great, it sucks that you might be leaving, but thats great! We just put an offer in on a house, and now my friend is in some financial trouble. I feel so so bad for her. I worry that she wont want to be friends anymore (shes the first real friend I've made since I moved here 3 years ago) but more importantly I feel bad that she wont have our rent to supplement her income.

I cant back out of the house deal unless the inspector finds that its a death trap, and if I do back out, my fiancee will hate me.

I dont know what to do. I feel so lost, and every time I talk to any one about it they say do whats best for you. I dont even know what that means anymore....

I just want to curl up in a ball and clutch my chest and cry
deleted_user
deleted_user
please dont judge youself. u r not dumb. anxiety disorder is an illness not a character flaw. if u need support im always around. i understand what ur going thru
deleted_user
deleted_user
Please don't feel dumb. You obviously care very deeply about your friends, which makes you a great person! I too put others needs and feelings way above my own, and have recently realized that it's time to put ME first. It has been quite difficult to realize and actually do it, but after all these years of worrying about what others think, i finally get it, that "do what's best for YOU' is 100% completely true and eventually becomes the best thing that you could ever do for yourself. I know it may not feel like it now, but it will feel good after awhile.
If she is a good friend to you, than she will always be there for you and should be very happy for you that you are buying a house.
Look after YOU, that's who is the most important in this whole situation, and your friend will also do the same with herself :)
annieheart
annieheart
Your not dumb at all.It seems to me that most of us with panic disorder are too caring.So much so we drive ourselves crazy with worry.Buying a house is a major comidment,and you are under alot of stress right now.Good luck with everything.
GwenY
GwenY
I agree, certainly not dumb. I also think caring too much is a pre-requisite to panic. My hubby is always telling me not to worry so much about other people and their problems - but I can't help it, if its in your nature there is not alot you can do about it. We can't help being kind and thoughtful - and that is one hell of a good quality. x
deleted_user
deleted_user
HUGS!!!!

You are not dumb as everyone else has said, I am like you, I care WAYYY too much about what others are thinking about me or about a certain situation, if she is a real friend, then she will surely understand and hopefully she can get renters in there ASAP!!!

If crying makes you feel better do it, I find that crying usually makes me feel 100x better... :) If you just need to get away from it all and have a good cry, I say go for it !!!!!!!!!!

In the end it will all work out..It always does.
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