Dear NDY
You heard the old saw,"It ain't over 'til the (fomerly) fat lady sings" Well.. I don't hear ya singing yet. From what you have described, of you current and past medical history, it would seem to indicate that a step up in the degree of care you will require is evident. Seek help to investigate what options are availiable to you. Then choose wisely and well.
I will light a healing candle and direct peaceful energy to you. d

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. My mother-in-law had a similar situation. She lived alone in her home until she was 84. The last few years she had several falls. She was able to call Life Alert with a simple push of a button, but didn't want to wake up her sons in the middle of the night to come and help her. So, one night she laid on the floor the entire night. That was the last straw and her sons insisted that she go to an assisted living facility.

The place she went to was very nice. Her only complaint was that she was living with too many old people!

In her last year she fell two other times because she insisted on climbing on chairs and doing other things that she was advised against. The second time she was hospitalized with a face full of bruises, looking like someone had beaten her. It was very sad. The staff found her and got her to the hospital right away.

Please do what you need to do to make sure you have help when you need it.

Glad your back,and glad your getting better,lots of love to you.

I am so thankful that you're back with us. To God be the glory. I will keep you in my prayers. Stay in faith. flowers911

I am so sorry to hear this news...you can bet you are in my prayer!!

It is so scary to be alone and have something like this happen...I am surprised the hospital send back home alone.. The social workers are there to assist you in other choices.

I think it would be a good idea while making a decision as to what might be good for you, you should get " LIFE LINE" in the house, they will call family, or 911 for you yo get the help you need.

My Mom just went to Assisted Living after a fall in the house breaking her pelvic, she went to hospital, to rehab, to assisted living.
she was lucky, she got right away. There can be a waiting list..
It is private pay, so you need to see what you get for your money..

It was the best thing for her, she gets 3 meals a day, plus snacks.. Lots of things to due, so she is not alone all the time..hairdresser is there once a week, nails done once a week...trips out to eat,and local stores, and transportation if needed..
She has a big room, with bathroom, refrig, t.v., kitchen table, chair full size bed, night table, triple dresser..all bought from her home. And she can have computer.

It was an adjustment for her, but she feels safe, all her meds are also given to her. She is busy with P/T which she gets 3 x week..
as for me, being the only child. It has taken a big lot off my mind.. I visit often, and take her out often..but I sleep so much better at night knowing she is being taken care and looked after 24/7.

Hope this helps.....

NDY,
I am shocked and very sorry to read about your latest adventure in the vhappy world of medicine,
I wonder whats happening to my prayers for you?they must be on hold up there.
have a word with the local Church community I am sure they could help in practical ways
In the meantime I will have a word with St Anthony for you.
the fact your still here meand you still have work to do down here so no nipping off UP THERE
when no body is looking!!xxJxx

I missed you too. Please find somewhere to live where you will not be alone. I am sorry to hear what happened to you. I hope that your bruises will heal soon! Take Care. Hugs, Debbie

Oh, Hon I truly did miss you. I knew something wasnt right when i didnt hear back from you. Im so sorry but Im GRATEFUL TO GOD that yousre with us. I have a dear friend that lived in an assissted living home and it was rather quite nice. The only real difference is it had a security enterance and served meals. She basically had her own beautiful apt. and someone who came to check on her. I think another good idea is a life alert neclace to hit the button if you have fallen or dont feel right. I hope you are getting the help n support you need. It is a sign of courage and strength to ask for help. You are a strong lady. Please take it easy and pace yourself. We need you. i willl be praying for you much more.
Thanks for letting us know your situation so we can help
your sis, Leslie

many hugs to you.....glad you are back with us....
prayers are on the way....xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

NDY- - I wish that none of this had happened to you. If you do decide to move to an assisted living home just make sure that it is a large place. As you see I am not living without you. ! ! As the song says "I'll Be There." Now don't you forget that. You know that you are loved. YrodXXXX

NDY;
Prayers are with you, as always! Wow, I hope the social worker finds some programs for you that you feel comfortable giving a look into. Have you talked with anyone in your parish for ideas? You certainly need to be in a location with more involvement. Such as assisted living with a nurse on site who does rounds daily. That way you still have your independence but there is always someone nearby in case you need the help.

I think this serves as a wake up call for me and maybe several others here on OTFN. We joined DS because we were searching for information and/or a support network because we have some physical problems. (I was newly diagnosed with narcolepsy and wanted information.) What I found was a great group of people who are intelligent, compassionate, and witty. I forget when I am here that we have these other issues. Isn't that one of the reasons you started this thread? To help us feel "normal", to allow us to share with one another, to just be ourselves. Thank you for all you do NDY to provide OTFN for our mental health, take us outside ourselves and our problems, to escape. We love you!


Lovely picture, NOT! How scary!

NDY, I am sad to hear of your recent medical problems. You are strong and have endured a lot. I'm so glad you are feeling better...the bruises will fade. You should be able to find some assisted living facilities that you can have your computer, phone, and a tv. It seems you do need someone to help you and keep you safe. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Sending big hugs your wayxxxxx

Oh My, what a horrible ordeal! I can't imagine how your daughter felt when they thought somebody beat you up! You do not deserve this my friend! I am glad that you are home but what about falling again? Do you have somebody to help you? I hope so. If not, I would fight for a home care worker. If anybody deserves one, it is you.

Now about OTFN, you rest and take the time that you need. You have a strong group of people who are ready and willing to jump in there and keep things going. I am one of them. You rest and think and take care of yourself.

The last thing I want you to remember is that I love you!
Mert

I'm glad that you are doing better ... that was something else. Don't know what to tell you about assisted living, had my father in it before he died and they treated him very well and took care of him needs. My sister and brother were more involved than I was so I don't know many details. He was in the Passavant Retirement community here is Zelienople. I don't know anything about other places.

Take care of yourself and keep me posted on your living arrangements if and when you get settled.

Dale

NDY...

I'm so sorry you went through this. It must be a horrible experience.. I just got your email and I don't know what a TIA is. I'm assuming it is a pre-stroke event?

Anyhow, please think of how much you want to spend time with your grandchildren when deciding about assisted living or not. I hope you do not chance this happening again. There are various levels of assisted living. Ask the agency more about it so you can make the best decision for everyone including yourself. Get well soon.