Hmmmm, I have thought long and hard about that one and my answer is no. Am I right? Who knows and honestly, I wouldn't want to know. I've always felt that way, even before I crossed the line with the OM. Don't know...don't wanna know. Denial...it ain't just a river in Egypt.

I'm not married (divorced a few years ago-no infideltity there. To be perfectly honest, I think I will get married again when hell freezes over. I have little trust for any man now.

No.

The opportunity has presented to him in the past and he decided to avoid the situation.

Based on his behavior now, I hope not, but I don't put cheating past anyone. It wouldn't be a one night stand. It would be someone that he became close to and it turned into more. The only good thing is that he doesn't keep many female friends. I plan on joining him in this behavior here on out.

If he does, it would be a one night stand and in that case, I don't THINK I would care.

My H doesn't attract women easily but if he did, I think he'd probably cheat for revenge.

Honestly, I never worry about it.

Would he do it Again.. No.. I just dont think he could.. he says the whole thing was terrible, and the thought of our marriage ending and him losing me still scares him to this day..

We both live w/ this fear..

I admit there are no guarantees.. so I suppose he could walk away anytime it suits him..

Edit: I meant to say.. I understand there are no guarantees..

Love is a choice.. and so my only guarantee is to get up each day and to be his wife, and show him love & understanding.. and support.. and so on and so forth.. and just hope for the best..

I never thought my wife would cheat, either.

And look where we are now.

Just saying.

My H cheated on me before, we were married, and just after. Would he do it again? Honestly I believe he would given the right circumstances. Would I do it again, depends also on the circumstances...I am one who believes all men cheat no matter what they tell you. My entire family of men cheated on their spouses and significant others, so did some of the women. .Every single man I have either known, or have been involved with cheated, so I know nothing different.

Ironically when I had mentioned this to my H when we were dating, his comment was, "why would anyone cheat on you." But yet he did too......Must be me...lol....

I would have to say, absolutely NO. He would separate or leave me before he would ever go there. He has an unpenetrable code of what is right and what is wrong.

I asked this because normally the ones who cheat rarely believe their spouses would do the same. Your spouses thought the same of you. They didn't believe YOU would cheat. Hmmmmmmm. Interesting perspective.

needhelp, I get the impression from some of your replies to some of the topics that you feel that if you have an affair that your H will feel your pain and you would be "even". I've seen too many times where a wife does a revenge cheat and the husband isn't so forgiving. If you want to stay married I would suggest that you get that idea out of your head. Also, you never know what his reaction will be like. Knowing that you purposely set out to hurt him might trigger a side to him that you've never seen before. Would it be worth all that?

Folks, honestly, never say "never."

I have always thought that there is a chance that my H would cheat. I have thought that since I married him. He has never done anything to make me distrust him, I just felt that most people could cheat given the right opportunity. I knew that if one day there was a set of circumstances such as, hard spot in our marriage, anger at me, distance from me, attractive woman, and maybe alcohol, that he might possibly cheat. How I would react would depend on the circumstance.
I also believe that he could fall in love with someone else and if he did and decided to leave me, he would. Once he makes up his mind about something, he does it. I doubt I would have any chance making him change it. So, far in 30 years he still love me very much and I hope that I can keep it that way.
I don't think that he thought that I would ever cheat, and neither did I.

Lostmyromeo. Not at all. I haven't cheated. I just want to know how it you guys would feel if the shoe were on the other foot..Again, do as i say, not as I do. I cheated on you, but I don't want you to cheat on me. Interesting point of view and that is why I wanted to get the perspective. If i EVER decided cheating was the answer for me, it would be MY choice and not a reaction to him. I would do it with eyes open, and be ready to accept his staying or leaving. When you cheat, that is what you risk. Many have decided it is worth the risk. I don't care to hurt him. Its not about him anymore. We are already hurt enough. I asked the question for the reason I asked..just getting your perspective. That is also an interesting question that YOU pose : "Would it be worth all that?" There are SO many infidelity stories and the person who cheats FIRST MUST think its worth it, or he or she wouldn't have done it. Now that the dust has settled, the betrayer can sit back with his/her newly acquired knowledge and can now tell the faithful spouse that its 'not worth it'. However while in the throes of the love affair, the betrayers were on top of the world. Now that your world has crashed, suddenly everything is so clear and you can dispense well-learned advice.

IBEX,, thanks.. that was thoughtful. No spouse enters a marriage thinking the other will cheat. At one point, however, one DOES. Since you did ( not you personally) and never thought you would, I was just wondering under what circumstance you think your spouse would.

Just a question for debate/discussion..no harm.