Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
Ok, so my almost 14 year old has had issues since real young. We've been in therapy/counseling, tried meds, happy charts, every parenting technique we could. We've had therapists give up because after a few years they realized nothing has changed, nothing has work, the child is incorrigible. She isn't abused, has a very simple easy life filled with all her needs and most of her wants. We don't think she was ever abused, but her behavior makes most therapists think she has. She's had violent outbursts over the years along with some self harm, many threats of hurting/killing others and self, and has no respect for any authority. She thinks life is stupid, everything is stupid, and if she doesn't want to do something, it's definately stupid. The past few years some things have gotten easier - she hasn't violently trashed the house in a while, hasn't broken other people's property and is getting kicked out of school less. But instead, she's doing things like writing on the bathroom walls with poop. I'm so grossed out. She's been doing this for about 5 months now, but the school called today, because they have finally ruled out all other students, and she is the only child who has gone to the bathroom(s) at the times the incidents occured. She's writing things like "whats up" and the F word. in Poop.
I'm flabbergasted.
I'm flabbergasted.
The poop on the wall hasn't been addressed with her yet. They asked her if she knew anything about it, and she said yeah, she's seen it in a bunch of bathrooms. They are afraid if they accuse her, or make her think they know she's doing it, she will become violent at school again.
I'm curious about a couple of things..alot of her behaviour sounds similar to my son's..
Does she have empathy for other people or show remorse when she's done wrong..
Does she lie alot?
Does she steal..is she "out for all she can get?
Let me know cause if this is the case I have some ideas as to what's going on with her.
Hugs
Sharonxoxo
She is stealing so much now - it used to be she stole a few things here and there from school/neighbors/friends. Little things. She doesn't steal from them anymore, she learned not to, however, now she steals from me. Everything from money to gum & candy, to batteries. And then she lies about it. And she's never the one who ate all those chips.. I keep telling her, I just need to know so I can buy more/replace things, etc. And when she does steal money it's for stupid things like the school store, pencils/pens or when they do raffle tickets at school. It's driving me insane. She knows she can earn money by helping around the house. She says she doesn't want to, she'd rather not have money then have to help around the house. I've tried everything - every type of reward chart there can be, and I just gave up because it didn't work. She'd do the bare minimum just to get enough, or nothing at all because it's "stupid" to her. So she doesn't get money, and she doesn't get to buy misc. junk, and I just don't buy her little surprises anymore because she's always so negative and hateful to us.
We also had to have a long talk with her about using the expression, "I know" to respond when she really doesn't know about something.. so she stops incriminating herself for things she doesn't know and didn't do!
We too are at our wits end.