Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Support Group
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) an ongoing pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures that goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. When a child cannot seem to control his anger or frustration, even over what seems to be trivial or simple to others, the child will often react in violent or negative ways to his own...
Hello,
I am really struggling with my 4 year old son. He is not officially diagnosed with ODD or ADHD but I ma in the process to get him tested and I ma pretty sure he is. I have tried so far, to keep a structured routine, gluten free balanced diet, no preservatives, colorant; etc. Now I am trying a product named Quietud by Boiron, and CINA. He fusses for everything and anything . Almost everything you propose as simple it may be it turns into a power battle. His way or the highway. He does not know limits for anything. I have heard over and over and over that to keep calm and keep it under control is a good way to cope with it and also to teach the child how to deal with frustration. But I am telling you I think I am losing control of myself and turning into an ugly, bitter and rather physically and verbally violent person. I feel horrible as a mother, and as a plus my husband works 90% out of town. I also a have 2 year old following the steps of his brother. Can anyone help me???? Sometimes I feel so lonely because people who has never lived through it does not understand and blame us for having poor parenting skills. Well, enough for now and pray that you have a better day tomorrow. Cheers
I am really struggling with my 4 year old son. He is not officially diagnosed with ODD or ADHD but I ma in the process to get him tested and I ma pretty sure he is. I have tried so far, to keep a structured routine, gluten free balanced diet, no preservatives, colorant; etc. Now I am trying a product named Quietud by Boiron, and CINA. He fusses for everything and anything . Almost everything you propose as simple it may be it turns into a power battle. His way or the highway. He does not know limits for anything. I have heard over and over and over that to keep calm and keep it under control is a good way to cope with it and also to teach the child how to deal with frustration. But I am telling you I think I am losing control of myself and turning into an ugly, bitter and rather physically and verbally violent person. I feel horrible as a mother, and as a plus my husband works 90% out of town. I also a have 2 year old following the steps of his brother. Can anyone help me???? Sometimes I feel so lonely because people who has never lived through it does not understand and blame us for having poor parenting skills. Well, enough for now and pray that you have a better day tomorrow. Cheers
About other people opinion, you better start building up your armour against it, you need your strenght for other things.
Im a single mum and was pretty much alone with the kids before I divorced.
Try to get some help, ie do you have a relative that could take one of the kids every thursday afternoon or something like that. If you cant try to get some alone time with each child. And to do something fun.
Deside what is most important regarding behavior and try to ignore the less important parts, we cant be nagging all the time ;)
Also read some good books about ODD (helps you feel not so alone).
Hope this helps, you are certainly not alone.