Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) Support Group
Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is a psychiatric disorder, more specifically, an anxiety disorder. OCD is manifested in a variety of forms, but is most commonly characterized by a subject's obsessive (repetitive, distressing, intrusive) thoughts and related compulsions (tasks or rituals) which attempt to neutralize the obsessions.
My sister and I have always been close. Most recently she has developed a habit of not returning phone calls timely - 2-3 days ( unless it is an emergency) I have told her ( in a loving way) that she comes off as inconsiderate when she does this. She always tells me the same thing, " I am so sorry, I Have been soooo busy" but aren't we all? My last call was sent on Thur and I told her I had some good news to share. It is Mon, no response. Is this me just being controlling? Help....
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
As someone in your sister's position, I too have a horrible time finding the time to return phone calls. It helps with me when people are specific in their messages about calling them back by a certain time (for example saying something like, "I know you're busy. If you get this, I would really appricieate it if you called me by 8 tonight because after that I'm going to be busy,"). Otherwise, I would say to keep reminding her. I wouldn't say that she is inconsiderate as that might put her on the defensive, I would maybe word it like this, "Lately, I feel like we haven't talked a lot. I understand that you are busy, I just love talking to you and care about you a lot. When my phone calls aren't returned in a day or so, I feel like I'm being avoided." Another thing you can try to do is set aside some time on certain days that you two talk. If you two talked every tuesday at 8pm, it would make you a regular part of her busy schedule.
Hope that helped.
I agree with everything you said. Sometimes I wonder if the OCD controlling part of me just wants to control this as well. I didn't actually use the word inconsiderate. The convo's we had were more like the example you showed. We have had this talk about 3 times now. It is hard because I love spending time with her - even if it is only every 4 weeks or so.
I know my sister likes to spend time together too. Last weekend we had plans to go the Aquarium and she had to cancel late the night before because her husband decided against it. The last minute cancel did not bother me as much the fact that I think she really wanted to go. :( Thats life I guess.
The every Tues at 8 idea is a great idea. I will suggest it.
I appreciate the feedback. ;)