Dealing with an OCD spouse.
My husband has OCD and I could really use some support. He cleans or thinks about cleaning all the time. He also wants me to clean all the time and if I sit down to watch tv or try to do something for myself it pisses him off. I am so discouraged with my marriage. We always argue because he nags me all the time about cleaning and he is verbally abusive. He puts me down all the time and if I try to talk to him about his issues he says i'm critisizing him and a lot of women would be glad to have a man who cleans up. All of our arguments end with him wanting a divorce. Sometimes he even tells our seven year old son that we're going to have to move out because he can't get along with me. This upsets my son and I feel I need to leave him before he makes my son crazy too. I am taking anti-depressants for the anxiety he causes me. He takes an anti-depressant also and has been diagnosed with OCD but he doesn't understand what it is or that its even a problem. I've noticed his mother has some of the same tendencies but she has never been diagnosed. She does take medication for depression and social anxiety. I think that's why my husband thinks he's ok. We can't wear our shoes in the house and he gets very anxious if someone comes over. None of our family comes to our house because they know how nervous it makes him and he gets really pissed if my neices or nephews come over to spend the night because they might touch the walls or mess something up. He either leaves the house or goes to bed if someone comes over. My son has to take all his clothes off at the back door and then be toted to the bath tub. He weighs 85 pounds. It is getting a little difficult to tote him now. If he touches anything in between the back door and the bath tub my husband screams. Can anybody out there offer some advice?