That's true. It's disgusting that some people see overweight people and base their opinion on that instead of what kind of person we are. For the men, I've heard that too and I only know of one and he is married, but other than that, I've not met one either. If only everyone would look deeper then just the appearance.

I hear ya! I hate when people say, "if you don't like youself then change it!" Um... if it were that easy I would weigh 100 pounds. They just don't know because they have never been in our shoes:)

I know it is difficult when people impose their opinions about your weight. I recommend that with diabetes, you get a nutritionist to help you set up a healthy eating plan--you need some protein in each meal. As for the men liking women that are fat--you'd be surprized. I think its all about self confidence, and thinking better of yourself. You are worth getting healthy, and worth taking care of yourself. You are not your weight. Thatis not what defines you as a person. Concentrate on all your strengths and things that you are good at, and build yourself up, instead of letting people put you down.

I completely agree with you on that!....People always think "every" overweight person got that way for doing 1 thing...."overeating"...they always seem to ignore the fact that there are several reasons someone could have an issue with weight....such as...medical illnesses, or medications!...but I do know there are guys out there who prefer bigger women. =)

Yes, I know many guys that like heavier women, it is all about confidence, even at my heaviest weight of 270 or so, I always had men that talked to me, and did the flirting thing, now i am married, so I never dated any of them, but I have no doubt that I could have.
I think that a lot of people speak before they think! You know when someone gets upset, or is telling an argument that they had with another person they will say things like: 'and I told that FAT B*TCH...ect....ect...' It all somes from appearance, and personally I would prefer not to socialize with people that are that shallow! :)

I saw an episode of Boston Legal on TV last night and it was about a woman who got fired because Denny Crane said she was fat and he didn't want people to think she worked there. It came out later that she refused to sleep with him, either way it was appalling. She is going to sue them. I can't wait to see the next episode. In truth, I think being fat is stigmatized in the work place.

You know, it's interesting to me about the "guys... that like fat women"... I wonder about that. I don't want a guy who wants me just for how I look, regardless of whether I weight 350 pounds or 110! Looks CHANGE. I just want someone to love me for ME and not have feelings that change if my outside changes. What if you were with a guy who was attracted to fat women, then you lost weight? It would be as hard to deal with a man being upset that you were getting thinner, healthier, more active, as it is to deal with a man who is upset when a thinner woman GAINS weight. At least that's what I think... *shrug*

O I so agree with MahleelaD! It is all about confidence in yourself regaurdless of what you weigh, a man that is looking only for someone that is a certain weight is most likely not going to be the 'pick of the litter' and i'm not refering to his looks, or weight.
Just as I said when I was up to 270 or so, there were many men that seemed interested, but I'm not sure that it was becasue I was over weight, but the fact that I was did not discourage them from showing interest.
I think what she wrote says it all! :)

It's really funny... I've always been overweight, but I've always had good self-esteem. (It's taken more damage over the past few years than ever before, but I'm still hanging in there!)

I was in 10th grade when I realized that the happiest girls I knew were not really the prettiest, or the smartest, or even the nicest - they were the ones who were (or, at least, ACTED) self-confident. I also found that the ones who were most liked were the ones who could talk to anybody - popular or not - and make them feel singled out and appreciated.

Then I figured out something that has helped me immensely over my life so far. I'm fat. Okay... I have a shortcoming - I overeat and I don't exercise like I should... Guess what? EVERYONE has shortcomings. Mine just happens to show on the outside. Hey! at least with me, what you see is what you get!

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Iknow what you mean if theres a guy out there that likes fat women i have never met him.

Yep, this is not good for all overweight peoples. They should understand what that can make them feel if they have to suffer this. I follow a lot of website out there for weight loss tips.