I completely agree with you! And, I think it's especially hard because when you're overweight people often look down on you or make comments that just make you feel even worse about yourself. Little do they know that it actually contributes to the problem instead of helping solve it.

I hope one day that I can overcome my weight issues - but I know that won't happen until I overcome my emotional issues first.

I tend to eat emotionally. Today I had a speeding ticket from a very rude officer and I went home and thought about overeating, but I talked myself out of it with a walk. Exercise is a real help toward feeling good about yourself - it is therapeutic and I talk aloud as I walk so it clears my head. If we view ourselves as able to cope, weight becomes less of a problem.

mental issues and the way that our parents/family taught us buy cook n eat, n oh yes they taught us how to treat ourself.
I'm a diva, always have been. I have always loved myselff.
I went into deep depression, so I stressed ate.
I was quite please when I began to be able to c my feet. even at my heavest, I wore nail polish n toe ring.
The mind n power of suggestion.

stephanie777, . . . I understand what you are saying. I married my wife 8 years ago. She is obese with health problems and arthitis. She is sitting at the computer most of the time unless she has doctors appts. Have you found anything to do so you won't be bored stranded at home. Any advise for my wife? She won't look for support herself. THANKS

vitkomazz I would just encourage her into whole and healthy living. Tell her how beautiful she is right where she is at and that you love her so much that you want to have her around and her taking care of herself will guarantee that. Swimming is great for arthritis depending on if she wants to do that. Yoga or any form of stretching is a great way to move more and not be hard on the joints. Also there are many reasons why people become obese so the journey to whole health and weight loss mostly comes from within. Once the wounds that caused the weight gain become healed then there is a better chance of the weight coming off. It's really true. I've lost 130 pounds this way.

Google mini cycle. Sit exercise n burn couple of cal's. while doing so.
to work my arms out place the mini cycle on kitchen table w cross work n word find puzzle booklets. Yes I get board easily but I make my self work out,. even if it's just doing a few laps up n down the hallway when my legs won't let me I still will hold on to car LOL n walk around it. w/o moving a person digestion system will cause problems.
I also have my exercise bike in ft of love seat, in den. I finely found a small exercise bike. it takes up very little room. when I'm on it I watch tv. n/r chat on land line.
Sometimes while seated. I will cross 1 leg at time. as in I will bounce 1 leg up in down liken to when a person is nervice, then I switch to other leg.
also at my desk I will roll 1 ft at a time upon ball of my feet, n lower foot bk flat onto floor. I do a few rounds n alter feet. works feet bones n calf's.
I have bar chairs. sometime while seatted. I will stretch my arms out, n hold on to table, n twist back n fourh.
That works out my arms, ribs/waist, legs n spine muscals.
I love walking in mall. I also walk the outter but inner walls inside of Wal mart store w/o buying anything.
most malls have mall walker's clubs

Also when I make pasta. I slightly over cook n drain w hot water, n drain n use. Pasta is a starch n carb. it's a gut n fat cheeks maker.
With meats I drain w hot water redrain n use.
w hot dogs I use a folk n puncher hole in skin n microwave. the with a towel I wipe the grease off the skin. yes when I'm wipeing the grease off the dog. I squeeze as mush water/grease out of it. ya my face just turned red.LOL
steak burger. I place on paper towel n pat dry.
cook steak buger on stove top I place 1/2 " or less of water in skillet n get water hot, then I add the meat n top meat w seasoning. I like to use sprin valley salad dressing in my burger meat. salad dressing is powered form. do not make dressing as pkg instruction. use it as a dry mix.
Sausage n cheap hamburger while cooking, drain grease off n resume cooking. after it's done rinse w hot water n place between folds of towel r paper towel-s, pat n squeeze off water/grease, then use. I just watch news on reg tv and indoing so my mind within to crapper. Aw, it's like head line news in news papers. who really gives a shit about someone dam cat. what real news r they keep us fromm seeing/hearing about. ya most people thinking is need to live by intertainment. US new has always been a running national joke n US people don't actually seem to see n understand.
Of will, time to tend to my 4 small doggies. 1 standard size pom, small pom minute dash, n germon spritz.
The spriz being solid white she walks on her hind legs n dances n jump through loops. my others will dance n play hid n seek n play tag.

Stephanie - if we could 'like' posts on here, I would like yours over and over. It makes me sad because so many in this group post saying they hate their bodies.

Vitkomazzetti - in these situations it is easy to get frustrated, But don't show this to your wife, try to be positive even if you feel you aren't making progress, It could be that she has low mood or is depressed, if you feel you are worthless and cannot get out that much or at all, that is a real possibility, so she will need all the support you can offer her. If she is depressed the computer-sitting could be part of it, it makes you lack any motivation for even the most basic tasks, and feel it is pointless to look for support as you are not worth the effort.

So what you can do is keep encouraging her. Start small, you can find 'chairobics' videos on youtube, do those on your own but loet her see you doing them. Take charge of household food shopping and cooking, search out delicious balanced recipes online and cook them for her. Do not buy anything that would tempt her, even if you just buy it for yourself or hide it. Don't eat that stuff anywhere near her. If she is more or less housebound, that will ensure she has little access to junk. Dinner is the healthy meal you are cooking, or nothing. If she wants, she can help out with cooking, or share in the exercise, but do not force anything on her. Just do it for you, can't hurt to exercise and eat healthy, that would be good for you anyway regardless of what she does.

Have you got a games console? Get one like PS Go or wii fit to show her a way of having fun while moving about.

And praise her often, tell her you love her, and why. Leave notes around to make her smile. Be as gentle and positive and supportive as you can even if you don't feel like it.

when I was heavy I went to Bass Pro store n had an ankle braclet made for myself. it was quit a while before I came to be able to see my toes. I had to have 2 nd n 3 rd ankle braclet made as I lost weight.
I also brought a gold toe ring. toe rings are adjustable. yep 1 size does fit all. when I became able to see my toes/feet I would have my nails done once a wk. I also would polish ea bail a different color. it made me giggle every time I happen to look down n get a glimsp of my toes,lol
I always did, n still do, have my finger nails done.
I also liked, n still like so called tramp stamps. tramp stamps are temporary tattoe's that a few a washings,it comes off.
On my desk I have indoor ivy plant. ya I half to leave my desk in morning so as to tend to plant. I used a plastic file box as a planter.
plants puts oxygen in air while sucking in carb..
I also have a beta fish on my desk.
I'm thinking about getting a bird. just a few things that get me off my ass even if it's just for 5 minutes.
I have 4 small dogs. I spend 15 minutes with ea throught out the day/night. that's 1 on 1 time plus group time together. they get me up even when I don't want to. they keep me active n healthier than I would be w/o them.
No matter the age of dogs, they will always be 2 to 3 years old in human years. 3 yrs in human yrs being max age of dogs in human yrs..
I don't risk my dogs health so I do not take them to play dates, dog walks, dog parks nor side walk walks.
I have fenced in dog run. dog run that goes into another section of fenced in yard area. I have a 20 x15 ft deck. they get to run around, get fresh air. They do their business on the deck. I have deck bleached washed every other wk.. in between I use pine sol cleaner in bucket of hot water.
I like small dogs. yep I like lap dogs. they get exercise by just being inside romping around, through the house.I take 2 at time, every where I go.
1 of 2 I use a baby stroller for her. she doesn't like the feel of eartn on her paws, lol, that's my girl.
1 of my dogs lays on my desk while I'm at desk .they obey all commands, except no bark order, LOL
When I had the blues, I draped large colorful scarfs over be rm light. I also have a small table top night light. I have red light bulb in it. at ft of my bed I have large silk flower arrangement . the flowers are muti, bright, cheerful, colors.
I also have bright color pair of house slippers, n house coat.
for those long dark rainy winter days.
On a cookie sheet I bake water flavor of almon r wanut are val. extract. I use it as an air freshner/scent. a mood lifter. scents rule our moods/our life.
I stay away from lavender. Last thing I need to do is cat nap more than I already do.

we were taught to wake eat, burp, poo, n go bk to sleep, right after we eat. as adults that hasn't changed. what we eat n how much effects our moods. like a cow when I over eat I rest n sleep while I digest. when I eat little more than healthy serveing potion size I get sluggish/lazy. will lazy er, ,lol
Bass Pro sports store has real gold, n silver chains that are sold by the inch. I always get the largest claw clasp because it is easier for me to latch bracekets w/o having others clasp bracelet for me.
When I go on vacations, n/r on the bch, I wear my jewelry from Bass Pro Store. Their ear rings are so pretty but way too heavey for my ear lobes.
Bass pro store jewelry is real silver n clad - real gold at next to nothing prices. prices range from $4. to $60. avg of most items $30./$40. most ear rings are $10 to $30.
we must do things to obtain that feel good feeling moments.
we must have our hair n nails done. I have my hair washed. not because my hair needs it but mess age does wonders.
I hope that I have brought a few helpful n possibility's of, insights to table..
My former husband is a chubby chaser. He not dark skin but her prefers dark woman big butts. I'm not rear door Betty. so he took his stick to dark side of moon, lol.
Will what r you waiting on. buy an ankle braclet n/r toe ring, n open toe, slip on,sexy/stylish, pr of shoes. no black brown nor dark blue shoes. howerver I have pr of muti color, 2 inch heels shoes. it has dark n difffrent shades of blue green pinks org n gold.
QVC is a 24/7 on tv store. they also have web site store. they offer fair quiity in fashion n some lrg size cloths. n shoes sizes up to 10 11 ned n wide sizes.
their ring sizes go uo to size 12. avg up to 8 to 10. I'v only heard complants about their ear rings n loseing ring settings because the ring pong are not placed correctly.
will it's almost my bed time. so I'm going to finish having 8 oz of ice water n handful of homemade trail mix.
Good night/ day