I have reached a turning point, I think, in my struggle with my weight and am ready to make a significant change. But I am still having trouble letting my husband have an opinion about my weight and weight loss. He has made it very clear throughout our nearly 13 year marriage that my obesity is a problem for him - during the 1st 5 years, I gained about 60 pounds. We've been through our share of difficulties and made it through and I think we are in a good place, but when it comes to my weight, well it's a sore subject. I am considering my options including lapBand, HMR meal replacements, etc. One minute he's like "I just want you to be healthy. I don't want to lose you." and the next minute he's like "can you honestly say that you've ever really given it 100%? If you're not going to try then don't spend a penny." Now, it's not that he's wrong, it's just that - I don't know, I guess it adds fuel to the "guilty" fires and it makes me angry and like I'm a failure and I'm never going to be able to do it. How do I make him understand how hard this is? How can I gain his support which I desperately need without feeling more guilt. I know he has been affected by my obesity, my whole family has, but it just makes it so much harder to think that he's really there with me and for me and then to hear the same old gripes and accusations. Any suggestions?
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