Obesity Support Group
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He is resisting me and doesn't want a dietician or therapy. I got him a membership to the ywca, and things are improving, but his weight just yo'yo's up and down 10 pounds. What do I do??? How else can I help or motivate him??
I'm 23, and I'm now down to about 250ish from the 335lbs. I'm having a VERY difficult time dealing with the fact that my parents didn't do anything more than suggest I lose weight. They didn't get rid of the junk food in the house, they didn't make me drink water instead of sodas, they didn't make me exercise... they didn't do a damn thing other than take me to dietitians but they didn't ENFORCE anything. I'm sorry but if you wait until he is ready to lose weight for himself, he may never do it! (More brutal honesty) This is your fault, just as it was my parents' fault for me getting as big as I did. Granted I was the one who put the food in my mouth, but my parents put the food in the house. What does a child know about a healthy diet and exercise regimen?? NOTHING! Only what the parents teach and provide. You have to not only set the example by exercising with him and providing a healthy diet, YOU HAVE TO ENFORCE IT! (More brutal honesty...) Looking back I really have hard time dealing with the fact that my parents didn't do anything more than what they did. I wish they would have MADE me exercise, even if they had to threaten to ground me for not doing it. I honestly feel like my parents didn't love me enough to tough it out and deal with me not liking the new rules and exercising, and instead just let me eat myself to near death. I feel like because they didn't help me change, I missed out on SO much as a child and teenager and I'm still having a VERY difficult time dealing with it and still have not worked up the courage to confront them about it.... So do the difficult, right thing and MAKE HIM DO IT!
Good luck and I'm here if you need anything :)
And dealing with the emotional issues is so important. I lost 100 pounds and got to goal, but I did not deal with the emotional issues and have gained more than half of it back. I wish I knew then what I know now.
Weight Watchers used to have youth groups - with no parents allowed. If you found one in your area, he could go there and meet other teenagers going through the same thing and be able to speak openly without fear of being judged while learning healthy eating habits and how to deal with certain situations.
I think offering to go to the YMCA with him would help. And tell him you love him, no matter what...I know you do from your post but he may need to hear it. Hugs.
would your son have an account on here of his own?
nothing helps more than pals and people to talk to . and if your in the same boat its a wonderful feeling not to be alone in all this . xxxx
in the past the support Ive had on ds has been amazing . let me know if you get him an account i will be a friend i need to loose quite a lot .i have a son and daughter too. so i understand your worry. x
bless you for helping your one cool mummy . xxx