Obesity Support Group

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It's so much more than fat...

susan19514
susan19514
I'm so over calorie counting. I wish I could just get to the bottom of my issue and fix what's wrong in my head that makes me overeat. We all know that obesity is not about the food. It's about depression, addiction, feelings of worthlessness, etc. I wish there were support groups around here that weren't full of people trying to lose that last 5 pounds. People who are really overweight like me that I can relate to. It stinks that I have to go online to find it - no offense - I do value this too, but I want people in real life that I can take walks with, prepare meals with, hang out with, cry with. I can't handle the blind leading the blind thing either. Overweight people giving each other advice about how to lose weight is kind of like asking an alcoholic how not to drink. We ALL know HOW to lose weight. Count your calories, exercise, drink lots of water. It's not the "how" that I need. It's friends that I can talk to and be real with who won't judge me. People who feel my pain. I can't be the only one feeling this way...right? :(
Ravenstar
Ravenstar
Amen sister! I'm here for you anytime you need to talk! And welcome to DS!
susan19514
susan19514
Thanks, Ravenstar. :) Friend request sent.
deg1923
deg1923
You are completely correct! I think of overeating as my heroin, except it is easier, and legal, to get your hands on. I visited a therapist for the overeating (and health problems) and she was helpful- but it is a long process to fight addiction. The best thing she told me was 'don't say anything to yourself that you wouldn't tell your best friend.' I hope that helps and don't feel alone, because you aren't.
jbangert
jbangert
I agree it would be nice to have some in person support but the great thing about online is that you get so many different perspectives from different people!! Hang in there and like Ravenstar I'm here if you need someone to talk to :)
michellewages
michellewages
You are not the only one! I HATE when skinny people will talk about the latest diet fad as if it is going to change my life. "Just eat this and not this! I've lost 5 pounds!" If I could change my eating that easily, I would!!
susan19514
susan19514
Great advice, deg! I love that. True story, jbangert. And OMG Michelle, I know, right? SO Annoying! As if we're idiots and don't understand the science behind weight loss. I'm going to send all you guys friend requests. I hope you'll accept. *fingers crossed*!
squirrely27
squirrely27
My thoughts exactly. We all know what we need to do to lose weight but there is something mentally holding us back.

I wish there was something that could physically get rid of the urge to eat all the time. Or that there was a person that was around me every minute of everyday to stop me from putting that much food and/or the junk food in my mouth.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,
I can identify with how you are feeling. I just seem to be getting heavier and heavier. I'm an emotional eater and always hungry.
The one thing that keeps me sane and makes me not feel completely alone is my TOPS group.
Even though I'm not really losing I do have a wonderful group of friends who are very encouraging. They never say mean things, there's no shaming at the scale, and I know they totally understand what I am going through because they are going through it too.
I can't recommend TOPS highly enough the letters stand for take off pounds sensibly.
Cypressmoon1
Cypressmoon1
For me, I've noticed it is anxiety and unhappiness with my own life that keep me from following through.....It takes WORK and RESTRICTION, DISCIPLINE.....things done more often when our personal lives and feelings are fulfilling us.

I'm in that rut, right now. I'm brainstorming my way out though....Just haven't gotten those marbles back in the bag yet....
Cypressmoon1
Cypressmoon1
....anger helps....