Hey, you are being way to hard on yourself don't you think? I do. You are hating your life away. Why not just take it one day at a time. I know its hard, but all this hate and you are missing out on the really good stuff life has to offer. We all need to loose the weight or we wouldn't be on this site, but try and stay positive. I am trying too and I know its hard, but try and find some things about you that you don't,"HATE". Look on the brite side, its winter and we have like 6 months until we need to bare more skin, so we have some time to loose some weight LOL. Hugs Denise

I've felt like that my whole life too.
I just started losing weight for the first REAL time this past February. It is the only "diet" I have ever done where I don't have those constant cravings. I do Atkins and I LOVE it. I am still struggling mentally with the weight loss though.
You can do it sweetie. I promise you. I weighed 350 pounds and was in the 300's for 20 years...so much of my life.
I could never lose either. Now I do, and I don't crave food, and I feel satisfied. It isn't for everyone. You have to find what works for you. For me this has been a life saver. I'm even off ALL my diabetes meds because my A1C and sugar levels are all normal now. I have great links to recipe websites if you want them. They have helped me so much. I NEVER get bored.
You're not alone. If you need someone to talk to I'm here :)
I really hope you feel better *hugs*

Hate is such a powerful word. That's alot of frustration. I wish you weren't aiming it at yourself. My doctor put me on a weight reduction plan and I count carbs because I'm a new diabetic. It sounds like you really haven't found a way of eating that works for you. It can take many attempts and each day is a new day to start over. It takes alot of determination. The word I hate is willpower. It doesn't make sense to me. Please don't judge yourself so hard. I think the word of the day is persistently. You have to be persistant to get results. And I always recommend seeing the doctor to make sure everything is okay inside. Sometimes we can have barriers to weight loss and not even know it. You hang in there and be good to yourself.

I know how you feel. I feel the same way everyday and hate myself a little more every day for not being able to lose weight or for putting back on weight. I do not know how to feel any different about my self. everyday I get up and tell my self today will be the day that I can do this and by bed time I am telling my self what a dumb fool I am and how much I hate my self for giving in to all my cravings. I hate my self and my life. I some times even wonder why I get out of bed each day. my weight is over 340lbs.

Why cant us bigger girls live next store to eachother and band together! It sucks wearing your addiction on your sleeve sucks.

Life can be tough & weight loss can be even tougher sometimes. What I have learnt from all of my own experiences and that of the people that I coach is that, 'while you are holding negative emotion, hatred & self-indignation then the stronger you are holding on to your weight'. What you are doing is flooding your system with chemicals & hormones that hold on to your weight & anything you even 'sniff' will turn into fat. You will be releasing so much adrenalin & cortisol (stress hormones) that there is no chance in hell that you will lose weight - you will just keep putting it on or stabalising! Once you deal with your negative emotions & stress & stop focusing on your weight & hate then things will change. Diets don't work! Change your stress & emotions & your weight will drop. You need more serotonin so do something that is fun, you need to change your focus. Good luck & stop hating yourself, you are only hurting yourself! Be kinder to yourself & watch things change!

good point wisperer. What are some ways to reverse negative thinking? My crappy lifestyle has made me feel so tired and unmotivated, I need a kick start.